Get a social media account

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I'm sick of meeting nice guys who don't have social media accounts. It feels too forward to ask a guy for his number the first time you meet, but when I try to add him on social media... No account. Stop doing this guys. How do you expect someone to get in contact with you?

You need to wear that.

I always found social media sites to be where friendships go to die. I don't blame people for not having one.

Social media is not a nice place.
It's also a window into your ethics / political preferences / hobbies - something people can be rather cruel about that in no way determine the positive or negative nature of the individual.

These guys either use Facebook a lot or not ever, and that's not a bad thing. Just ask if they use what's app it's a subtle way of asking for their number.

You don't have to post anything or read what others post, just use it like Whatsapp. Just make yourself easily contactable.

Asking if they use whatsapp is asking directly for a phone number. You can't contact someone on WhatsApp if they haven't given you their number.

Usually....single guys use social media to contact girls.

Which is odd if they don't have one, this probably means they might be too attractive, already aware they're in-demand, and they really don't need one.

Or are taken.

Well it's what I do and works for me. It's like saying "I want your number but I don't want to be weird about it" - it's essentially the same as texting but people are "ok" with it because it's a social media tool.

That's the world for you.

There's a few fair explanations for why they wouldn't do that.

1. They're loners and feel like there's no point bothering to have an account since nobody would care anyway.

2. They're confident enough in themselves that they see no need to make themselves easy to contact - they'll be more direct with the people they're interested in.

3. They have an account, but it's under a false name so they can easily avoid dealing with people they have no interest in.

They probably don't have one for the reasons the other guys have just given here

On facebook you can easily block someone, blocking a phone number is a hassle.

and you can set your account not to be searchable I think.

Would you even need to bother? I mean, the typical western chap would share his name with about a million other people. How do you even find the one you're looking for without searching through mutual friends or some crap?

there are numerous reasons why i abhor facebook. most of them are debatable, and i change my mind frequently about whether or not they are a deal breaker. but then there's always the ultimate reason:

facebook is the devil incarnate

sorry, but no
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i use google hangouts when i want to talk to people. or just plain email

I'm beginning to think my friends and family are pretty OK. I don't find Facebook that bad. I just view it as group texting.

I feel the same as you. Maybe it's a aspie thing but I like to know about the person a bit before getting to involved. It makes me more comfortable around the person cause I know what to expect in a way.

Also you can tell if they are just ignoring you or if they just haven't seen it