Making A Relationship Official

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I have been going on a few dates with this girl a friend set me up with. She is a very, very nice girl and we have alot in common. Like me, she has Aspergers and gets very anxious with social situations. I would like to tell her that I really like her and want to have an official relationship with her. She does seem to feel good about me too, but I am nervous that if I say anything, I will turn her away because that has happened in the past. How should I go about telling her this? Also, is it ok to tell her this over text because this is a way we both feel comfortable with?

In my opinion that may be a better conversation to have in person.

You could do it face to face in a way you are comfortable with

Maybe like a box of chocolates or something with a note on top that says 'will you be my girlfriend'

My best friend's husband was really nervous when he asked her out. They'd been spending a lot of time together, but he wanted it to be official. He asked her face to face. He said something like, "do you want to be my girlfriend." She said yes.

Wouldn't simply "I love you" show the same intention; or is that considered too rushy and sissy nowaydays so we should say instead "will you be my girlfriend"?

They supposedly both mean the same thing, no?

Saying "I love you" at this point would be an huge mistake, since it might scare her off. Asking her if she'd like to be your girlfriend sounds way too juvenile, in my opinion -- just a step above asking her if she'd like to "go steady."

Simply express to her that you believe the two of you have a good chemistry, rapport, and have enough commonality to make a relationship work. Definitely do it in person!

So let me get this right...so at this stage, there's virtually no difference at all between "girlfriend" and "sex partner"; at this stage a girlfriend wouldn't mean a lover.

How about this? "Would you like to be exclusive?" When my boyfriend and I became exclusive, we just went Boo's route. We told each other we loved each other, but that was after a few months, so perhaps, this may not be as appropriate for you.