Had My First Kiss On Friday Night. Not Sure How To Feel

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Some might say that a first kiss seems like a big deal until you actually go through with it, after which you realise it's really not.

Those people must not understand that the act itself is merely symbolic of the milestone it appeases. Whilst interlocking lips with another individual will not provide serial content beyond the realm of comprehension, what it does do is unlock a door that has never even been ajar.

Perhaps this will be the year of firsts for me. In March, I went on my first date, and on Friday night, I had my first kiss. The circumstances surrounding this kiss are less than optimal, so I have found its status as a victory being brought into question.

The kiss didn't result from a strong mutual attraction, nor did it happen in a rom-com-esque setting. We'd hit the town. Four guys, one girl, a few drinks in. One of my friends raised a question about how many sexual partners we'd all had. Of course with my number being zero, I neglected to answer, and soon fell melancholic, which was exacerbated by my inebriation. I soon found myself sharing that I'd never even had my first kiss yet, and a few minutes later, the girl who was with us (friend of a friend) offered to give it to me.

Like I said, the circumstances are far from perfect, but it's progress at the very least (I think). I guess there are pros and cons to the situation.

Pros:
I actually got my first kiss
She was reasonably attractive
It's now less far-fetched to believe that it could happen again in the future
Apparently I was decent for a first-timer

Cons:
We were both intoxicated
It came about through me voicing my discontent at having never been kissed rather than through genuine affection
It was very unlikely any kind of a big deal for her

I guess it's breaking new ground, so at least part of me has to take it as a win.

It was more of a pity kiss then, I don't imagine it would feel like a real achievement.

I think this could have an opposite effect too on one's self esteem.

Personally, I wouldn't see a positive side from it, a kiss for me is only genuine if the girl is really attracted to me and wants me, otherwise ...it's meh.

Perhaps. She did come back for seconds though, so I'm not sure.

I can't imagine anyone would be willing to kiss me if I were absolutely hideous though.

No, but remember she was drunk too, and maybe she regrets it now?

Does she have your contact?

I added her on Facebook after, so yeah.

Even if it was a shallow victory, I highly doubt she 'regrets' it. But I shouldn't be surprised that you would jump to that conclusion.

Did she message you?



Lol, and why it is so?

Oh my goodness Face of Boo stop being so negative with everyone!

Mr Grand Inquisitor look on the brightside. At least you'll look back and remember that first kiss was with a friend whom you like and respect. I look back on my first kiss and wish it had been with a nice person. I don't even like him as a person at all.

We are analysing the pros and cons of kisses now?

You call it negativity, I call it wisdom. .


But seriously...let's not sugar coat things:

-He told them he never had a kiss before.
- The girl said I will give you this first kiss.


This is a pity kiss, what else you would call it?

Hmm...ok, let's get so extremely optimistic:
An opportunistic kiss? She liked him so she decided to grab the opportunity? ....it could be, but so unlikely.

if so then they should be dating very soon, otherwise it was a just a pity kiss....but let's wait and see.

The Grand whatever:
DID SHE MESSAGE YOU? DID SHE SHOW INTEREST AFTERWARD?

I can draw analytic charts on kisses too.

Oh, well.
Over-analyze away.

Don't count your blessings or anything.

There's this thing called tact.

I don't see how you could be losing in any way by getting a kiss from an attractive girl.
But maybe that's just me.
Too simple by far.

1....2....3...4..... I will let you know when I finish.

What is that...thing?

hmmm...tact ...tact....

I guess to me, a pity kiss would seem more along the lines of something you'd give to someone begrudgingly. Like you don't really want to do it, but you do it to make the person feel better.

In this situation, she didn't seem terribly hesitant, and she propositioned me rather than the other way around, so I'm not sure you could put that under the same class. Maybe you could, but it still seems a fair bit different than someone giving into the will of someone else as opposed to volunteering.

And I don't think it's going to turn into anything more, no. I added her on Facebook. She accepted my request. No messaging has taken place, and I assume we'll resume as friends.