Not screwing things up

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hi there. I currently have a chance with 2 different girls right now but don't feel like it matters that much because I have a tendency to screw it up. Does anyone have any advice for reading girls, knowing what to say, or how slowly to take things with different girls depending on who they are? Any help would be greatly appreciated

Which one do you like more? I tend to like the dinner and movie approach.


Reading girls? I'm sure most NT guys haven't even mastered that skill. Though letting the woman lead the conversation tends to yeild great results!

Ask them out together.

Well if you wanna have no chance with girls ever, listen to Cal.

however, if you want even a great chance out of say............3.4*10^7 then you should listen to what I have to say.

my advice, is the fact that you like two girls............not a problem, however what you want to be asking is which one are you more comfortable around and whatnot. that is a great baseline to start from.

If you don't know what to do or say, just be open about it. I am now in the first ever relationship where I haven't been treated appallingly and it works because when I don't understand what my NT boyfriend is trying to communicate, I ask him, and he tells me and doesn't mind.

When he doesn't understand my aspieness, he asks me to explain it and I do and it's actually a really interesting process because we are really learning to understand rather than just trying to be psychic or guess and getting it wrong all the time.

It's difficult because some people seem to 'look' for people with whom they can 'tell what each other is thinking without even speaking' - that seems like and ideal for some people. I have been with a couple of people like this and needless to say it didn't work out.

So it partly depends what these girls' idea of a good relationship is - but I have certainly found that being honest about the things you find difficult or don't understand really helps - and if they can't accept you for who you are, it's their loss!

hahaha

Listener to Gamester, he knows what he is talking about.
He even has a girlfriend and has slight telepathic abilities ( yet to be demonstrated).

I was serious. Here's how you go about it:
Just invite them both to a lunch, "with some other
friends." (this is a nice safe way to ask someone
anyhow). Then, when they're the only ones there,
mention that <insert name here> couldn't make it.
Now, you're in the outstanding position of not having
the whole burden on your own speaking. Plus, you
could win the grand prize.

He does have a pretty good point.

As always.

I don't always know what I'm talking about.

I have a girlfriend???????

Listen to Kosmo - he has mystical powers of sight as well.
Perhaps you just don't know that you have a gf.

I know that I often find things that I don't know that
I have when I do the laundry.

If I had a girlfriend I'd know about it, and I have made no such articulations to having one at all in any of my posts.