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27 Apr 2007, 6:17 am

Help me on this one, please...........Would one say they are an ideal realist or a real idealist?



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27 Apr 2007, 6:25 am

Depends what you'd call hoping for the best but being hunkered down for the worst.



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27 Apr 2007, 8:02 am

I have no idea.



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27 Apr 2007, 9:14 am

Dunno, bit of both?



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27 Apr 2007, 11:07 am

I am a solid idealist.

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27 Apr 2007, 11:09 am

techstepgenr8tion wrote:
Depends what you'd call hoping for the best but being hunkered down for the worst.


I always called that optimistically pessimistic...or the other way around. Whatever you call it, i 'm that way too.


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27 Apr 2007, 12:13 pm

I'm a total realist but I wouldn't really recommend it.... :?


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27 Apr 2007, 5:19 pm

A realist for the most part, with an idealised viewpoint struggling to elbow its way to the front of my mind.

From what I can gather, I think I'd rather be in love with the idea of being in love, rather than in love with another person. Scrabbling for scraps from the table of romance is too much like hard work, anyway, so why bother?


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27 Apr 2007, 6:57 pm

Real idealist. Idealist in that I want the ideal romantic relationship, and real in that I know no such thing exists.



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27 Apr 2007, 10:13 pm

A realist, but with high ideals.



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27 Apr 2007, 11:18 pm

I consider myself an idealist in terms of what I hope for, but I don't expect any of my wishes or ideals to become a reality.



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28 Apr 2007, 6:07 am

An ideal realist would be the prototypical realist.

A real idealist would be an actual idealist.

So, they have different meanings. Pick the one
which suits.



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28 Apr 2007, 2:34 pm

I am definitely an idealist, in lots of ways. I know that some of my dreams will probably never come true, but I still hope for all of them.



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28 Apr 2007, 4:45 pm

Yeppers, I am an idealist, a non-conforming idealist...Thanks for your answers.!



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28 Apr 2007, 6:28 pm

I'm a hard-core, highly jaded realist. I see a romantic relationship as a little more than a business transaction, only instead of paying with cash, I'm paying with "romance", which, by the way, can be just as expensive.



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28 Apr 2007, 6:54 pm

Aspie1 wrote:
I'm a hard-core, highly jaded realist. I see a romantic relationship as a little more than a business transaction, only instead of paying with cash, I'm paying with "romance", which, by the way, can be just as expensive.


What's sad is that knowing what you want, actually wanting a relationship that's built right, and going for the people that you think it could work with ends up completely destroying the dynamic of attraction. Its unfortunate to see how we're really fundamentally built.