Reconciliation with a friend that I parted ways with

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Okay so I am an autistic man and I had a female friend that I recently parted ways with, who was just plain beautiful to me in every aspect of herself. Our Friendship was really amazing and I enjoyed and genuinely appreciated every minute, second, and hour of time that we had with each other. I honestly didn't even expect for us to reconnect with each other, so you know that the first day I got to see her again, It was truly a blessing and a dream come true to me. I say that because she and I went to high school together and she was the girl that I REALLY wanted, and the fact is, She was my favorite.

The reason why I am being really thorough in this is because this REALLY MATTERS TO ME.

I really want her back in spite of the fact that she has serverely PISSED me off with her unnecessary rudeness toward me and my autism. What I didn't like about it is that she loves to call it "brash, frank, brutal honesty" and then dismiss how I feel every time that I simply tell her that I didn't like that. Second as a person with Autism, if you communicate with me in such a way that confuses and irritates me, then I will tell you that. Thirdly, she says either she is trying to tell me "facts" or she didn't mean it that way and then wants to make it seem like I am wrong for telling her that I didn't like it. I also don't like how she makes it seem like I am weak because I refuse to tolerate her rudeness and disrespect in her speech. I mean I really don't like brash delivery, but that doesn't stop me from hearing another person out because I really am not that sensitive. I just don't understand why she expects me to just let her talk to me like that, and I just want for her to not communicate with me in such a way that confuses me.

However, you can tell me ANYTHING, even the worst of things, it is just all about how you SAY it in your words, emphasis and your expression. I can say this because I have another friend of mine, and we talk about things such as conspiracy theories and whatnot.

The reason why I want her back is because, I still can't seem to stop thinking about her because she really made me happy. I seem to stimulate her and she really just makes me feel better just by being in her company. She is also the first female friend that I have had. I mean, I have had other female friends in my life I just haven't had a full out REAL friendship where we hung out with each other and enjoyed each other the way this person and I did. I really enjoyed her company and I can tell that she really enjoyed my company as well. I just really want the good times that we had together and I just really appreciated those times.


I have the full story written and you can see it here. PLEASE READ THIS THERE ARE A LOT OF KEY DETAILS TO THIS!! !! !! !! !!

https://drive.google.com/open?id=1l_y4b ... Bqtfg15J7I

So do you think that the outcome of trying to reconcile with her will be unfavorable or will everything be okay?

Any advice will help and appreciated!

Be careful.
She may be a narcissist, energy vampire, and/or other form of abuser.

You shouldn't feel bad, drained, confused, or full of self doubt, after being with a friend.

If I were you, I would put her on the back burner
and look for a new friend or friends who will respect you and encourage you ...
not dismiss you and be rude and then try to blame you.

Best wishes.

Briefly dated a girl that did that to me as well about 3 and a half years ago. Lesson learned in my experience says that type of girl should be kept at arms length at all times if i ever have to share any environment with her.

I would say move on from this one. However, since you say this is your first female friend, you could still learn your own valuable lesson from keeping her around.