This is bad...this is really bad...

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So my lady friend who I don't see really as a viable girlfriend for me (due to incompatibilities I talked about in other threads but won't now) invited me for a outing in mountain tomorrow and I was like "yeah, cool! I have nothing else to do!" - while thinking It will be just me and her, as usual.
It turned out that her friends (I don't know them) - who are all couples , including her young uncle- are going too, and she wants to introduce me to them, but I wonder she will introduce me as ...what? As....what exactly?? As her 'best male friend' who she always went out with one to one on almost every weekend for a long time?

Yikes! Maybe I should probably pretend I ate something bad and dying.

It sounds like she's inviting you because she's the only one who's single amongst those friends, it doesn't mean that she sees you as a partner, it's just that otherwise being single she's the only who doesn't have someone to bring along. If it was me, I'd just go along with it, at least you might have a fun time.

It'll be fine, Boo.

Just be clear that you're not going out with her, but you just often spend time alone together in the same place, and the only reason you came along this time is because you thought it would be the same deal.

No its not--how else can you build your network? Someone might hook you up with someone you do like.

Her Uncle coming, and mother's intentions make it look like a bad idea to me too. I wouldn't go either, I think you're doing the right thing.

I am stuck, there's no escape now...

Well, it's your own fault for leading her on in the first place. Now you've painted yourself into a corner.

Doesn't seem like it's a good idea for you to go. I have single female friends I socialize with in groups, hang out one-on-one, exchange hugs, dance, and even flirt with. Some of them I'm not interested in (not my ethnic type, too full-figured or too skinny, or mismatched goals and mindsets). Others I kind of like, but they're fun enough as friends that I don't mind not dating them. And that's all well and good. But in your case, her family is getting dragged into the equation. I know how traditional-minded families think. They most certainly will try to get you two matched up, despite your utter lack of interest, and possibly hers too. If you can't bail out completely, think of a good excuse on why you two aren't a good match. I remember you saying you're secular. Perhaps you can leverage that, if she's more solidly religious.

Oh, and tuna with mayo isn't going to make you sick, sorry. It's something Americans eat for lunch regularly, and so far, we're still going strong. Well, mostly. Depending on if Rump or Hellary [sic] gets elected. But perhaps since it's not a traditional food in your (The_Face_of_Boo) culture, your stomach might not agree with it as readily. So it's worth a shot.

https://youtu.be/-_qMagfZtv8?t=54

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ob9Zvxo1gc

Well.....it was cool, her uncle was cool.

Thing is, the event turned out to be a small festival in a rural place, so it's not like were were sitting in a regular restaurant setting where we can talk a lot, the place was crowded and little chance for chit chat.

The uncle did ask me few questions though but he asked all the same to everyone...so *phew*.

I guess I was unnecessarily phobic.