Aspergers ex bf

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My Asperger's ex bf and i broke up in the summer. We had an argument and he broke up with me. He's had bad dating experience with his exes who played mindgames with him and dumped him. Ive been getting these phone calls (private) and when i pick up the person drops.. I get this feeling its him. I notice that whenever i'm online on whatsapp he is too and signs off whenever i do. He never use to use it at all. Until we broke up.. Ive seen him around, ive tried to have a friendly conversation.. I could sense hurt in his eyes. The day that i saw him he changes his whatsapp picture as well right after our encounter. It's hard to communicate with him.. I tried to reach out after our breakup and he ignored me, i wanted to maintain friends but hes so afraid i'm like his ex and is out to control/manipulate him. He said he was over me but i dunno?

Have you tried to contact him to ask if you could start over? Not only does it seem to me that you're interested in dating him, he seems to still be obsessing over you.

I have but he ignored my messages. He is 22 and i'm 24. His friends do not have aspies they are all single and not the type to be tied down.

There's nothing you can do if he's ignoring you except block him on your social media sites & change your phone number to stop his nuisance calls.

If you don't mind me asking, what was the argument about that may have minipulated him in such a way he didn't want history to repeat itself

How do you know if someone else is online on WhatsApp? As far as I can see there isn't an indicator.

He doesnt think i trusted him 100%. I told him to patient with time i'll open up more about my childhood he was paranoid that i was like his exes who played mindgames

I think this may be more to do with paranoia than with Aspergers. If a person believes something solidly there's not much you can do to convince them otherwise.

He has to want to believe you.

Can ACT therapy help?

Therapies only work for those willing to engage with them. If he doesn't want to be helped, then nothing will help him.

I know what it's like trying to let go of someone who still has feelings for you, but they won't do anything about it because of their own hang ups.

It feels like a waste of something good and you hope that you can fix it, you try anything to fix it.

But it the other person won't participate. There's nothing you can do other than move on with your life.

It's his loss.