What makes a girl approachable?

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I'm just curious what makes girls seem approachable and what makes them unapproachable.

Whether she has a great personality or not.
Whether she's interesting or not.
Whether she's brave/intelligent enough to take initiative or not.

If two out of the three points above are a "yes", I'd consider her approachable.

I'm treating 'approachable' as distinct from attrractive. If I find a woman attractive, it's axiomatic she'll be approachable. So this is how I judge people - men and women - to be approachable or not.

Mature.
Not stupid.
Not snooty/stuck-up.
A shared sense of humour.
Similar cultural interests.
And plain friendly.

I think much of this would be judged from body language/deportment, and observation of interaction with others.

- Don't put earphones 100% of the time when you're doing activities such as gym, joggling, ...etc

No decent guy would bother and approach a girl if earphones/headset are glued to her ears, because he would assume she's listening to music and doesn't want to be bothered.

- Don't send voice messages to your girlfriends on whatsapp 100% of the time.

No decent guy would interrupt a girl voice-chatting on whatsapp.

and of course:
- Don't talk on your mobile phone all the time, for the same reason above.


Note: Rude guys would bother you anyway, so it's not really a good filtering method, ladies - if that's your intention.


Side funny story: I have once met up with a girl through Okcupid, and she turned out to be a member at my gym, she was always used to put big red headphones when she's there - 100% of the time.
When she found out I am a member there she was like "So why did you approach me on Okcupid and never did so at the gym before?".
And so I was like "You put headphones all the time"- and she was like "And so what? Poke me." .....seriously!

This is a big lack of common sense.

A woman who is approachable has a little smile on her face, always.

If a woman has a frown, and keeps her head down, then she's pretty unapproachable--unless somebody wants to take advantage of her. You have guys who take advantage of the vulnerable.

You all seem to have an interesting perspective. Amusingly enough, it’s more or less the exact opposite of mine.

I’m not even educated enough to know what that means.

I'm really socially awkward so I don't approach anybody anyway, but in theory approachability would be best achieved with a sense of friendliness and openness.

Boo and Kraftiekortie's ideas seem pretty solid. Though, if you have to force a smile you might look like a weirdo.
People would have to approach you first before they can judge things like

Boo believes you believe in nothing--

which isn't true--because believing in nothing is actually believing in something.

One way to make myself unapproachable: not taking a shower for three days.

Let me tell you the best way to get girls: Lighten up the mood.

Sometimes, we have to leave our philosophical Ivory Tower, and come down and smell the roses.

I know I have to tell myself this sometimes.

He was just pulling somebody's leg.

I used to react to kids teasing me with bad temper tantrums.

I had to learn that the kids were just trying to pull my leg.

so it's not really a good filtering method, ladies - if that's your intention.
Thanks
HMRC

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