trusting in love.....

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i have a MAJOR problem....

i was recently tricked by a girl...
she said she liked me, and i liked her too...
but on our first date, she never came....
i felt heartbroken when i heard this was all a hoax and it isn't the first time this happened....
i also had fake friends who always took something without me knowing it....

i don't know what i should do now...
i feel like not trusting anyone....

what should i do?

Last Heart....
personal iritator.....

I'd say keep your love a secret.

I've had a similar thing happen to me... only I was told just in time by a not-so-evil NT that it was all a trick. Was this girl you're talking about an NT?

^^ does really make any difference if she wasn't ? :S

At least you weren't in MY shoes. I dated someone for months and it took a year after we hooked up to tell me that she never liked me at all. What a f*****g lie I lived, and I felt for her too.

I just had roughly the same thing happen to me. I'd just met the girl, though, so there wasn't a lot of history to add to the emotional aspect of it. I think she simply got scared for whatever reason. Did you know this girl long? Have you spoken to her since this? Perhaps there's a legitimate explanation.

As useless as this advice may sound, if someone isn't into you, it's good to find out early. I think we tend to get fixated on particular people, and don't consider that there are plenty of other people out there. This can even be true when we're successfully dating someone, but perhaps not that excited about them. It's easier to go with a sure thing.

I had horrible time at my last job. Worked there for five years and thought I had some friends, but in the end found out most of them that talked to me and were nice to my face or asked me places were doing it only to mock and make fun of me later. I felt the office joke and felt like an idiot for not realizing for so long.

Can't believe it took five years to realize I was just amusement. They often took advantage in many ways as anytime I was asked to help or if they needed something I always happily obliged. I also realized they continually used me as the official workplace scapegoat, too. Since I didn't comprehend the situations well, I'd usually end up accepting that it must have been my fault and end up in front of the manager again...

Towards the end for the first time in five years I asked the people I'd been helping all this time to help me (two of them even outright offered) when extremely overwhelmed. They ran to the manager stating I was trying to dump my work on them and that I could do it myself -including the two who offered in the first place. Got called out in front of the manager and in trouble again. One girl told me later she was only saying it to be nice and didn't think I'd actually take her up on the offer (because I'd always refuse everyone's help prior to this). ! !! !! !! !!

Guess that's why I've finally come to the conclusion I'm much better off working from home and for myself.

I really feel for you.

I always end up feeling stupid for these kinds of things, especially when they happen over and over... At work, in love and friendship - you name it.

And not to mention it took me FOURTEEN YEARS of being with the same man to realize he was incredibly abusive. Talk about feeling like an idiot for NOT SEEING THE SIGNS. I like to think I'm highly intelligent, but SOMETIMES I WONDER!! !

when i used to have to ride the bus to and from school...

/supress shudder...

guys used to tease me by pretending to be my friend and "Asking me out" and feigning "hurt feelings" when i would tell them to leave me alone (and i did this only after i caught onto it). even the girls would jump on board and start asking me things like "why don't you go out with _____, he REALLY likes you"... and all kinds of crap like that.

it really hurt and i stopped riding the bus all together unless there was snow and i had no other way to get to school.

hmm my "friends" from university were always ask me for help in their studies and they were used to be so friendly and they kept phoning me ...but later i didn't had 1 call from any1 of them after we finished our masters in university .
And there' was a girl that she always used to call me a lot for help and she IM with "Samer HEEEEEEELP " , few weeks ago i used the block checker and i found out that she deleted me on msn ....hehehe of course because she finished her studies too so she doesn't need to IM me anymore .

I was always too clever for this. So clever in fact, that I think that I ignored away someone who WAS interested. Ah well.

I never trust someone in love.
I'm always paranoia and suspicious.

This stuff really gets to me. And they wonder why we have trust issues.

Sounds like my High School Crush who made me look like a fool in front of her friends. She was a Tomboy.

i realised something while reading your stories...
humans are the worst plage on the planet...
selfish, greedy, and using others for their own amusament...
i wish there was a girl that would understand how we feel and what we were been through and not calling us wimps, or lozers or stuff like that...
i guess we aspies are doomed to live under the tiranny of people thinking their betterr then us and misusing their control over us...

later!

Last Heart, biggest bad-luck magnet...