'Break' in a relationship

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What is your opinion in having a relationship break. Can it help at all?

Sure! It can give you a new perspective on the relationship! (and also lessen the urge to strangle your significant other with a piece of piano wire).

I'm not really keen on them, most of the time.

I'm more keen, though, about keeping the relationship intact, while maybe taking time off from actually seeing each other.

But it is possible, as Vegetable Man said, that you might obtain a new perspective--including one in which actually miss somebody more than you thought you would. Rather like "absence makes the heart grow fonder."

It is break up.

I meant like in the way of spending time apart but still being in a relationship. Not like splitting completely for a bit.

I just feel like we are arguing loads over pointless stuff.

Would you please stop. God its serious situation that is really bothering me. I really don't need your smugness

Howdy. I don't like fights. Usually arguments mean there is really something wrong in a friendship/relationship. Do you want to enlighten about what the fights are about? Who is starting them? To me, if one person is starting a lot of petty little fights, that would be a sign (for me) that the friendship/relationship has run its course.

I am just saying what I would consider it if it happens to me.

You literally asked "What is your opinion in having a relationship break.".

I really envy you. At your age, anything involving me was by definition not serious. It still is, but that's a different story.

Haven't you been seeing this person for 3 years now? Or am I wrong?

Sorry, but I have to agree. Break = prelude to a break-up. It's just a slower, more painful way to end it.

Now, on the other hand, reevaluating the way we behave in our relationship to make more time for our individual interests - we can spend time doing things without one another and that's fine as long as we communicate about it - now that's something that could make your relationship stronger.

A break is nothing but an opportunity to sleep with other people and feel justified by it. I don't know if I've ever heard of a relationship coming back stronger after a break. I've heard of people getting back together, but they don't describe their break as in any way productive. I suppose almost loosing someone could make someone start to take the relationship more seriously, but then we are back to the prelude to a break up idea.

A holiday from each other can be good.
My partner and I rarely see each other but we still like to have a break, either by ourselves or with different people.
It really does give you a new perspective and can refresh a stale relationship.
The strongest relationships occur when you accept that what you have can be lost at any moment.
It's not good to cling.

This is exactly what I was thinking.

And if they want to break up for a time, I don't see them as good marriage material. What would they do if you were married? Can't exactly take a break from that.

This reminds me of this reality show that I'm watching now. (No boos from the peanut gallery, please.) Anyway, it's called "Married At First Sight" and these two got married after being paired up by people who specialize in this sort of thing. It ended up after two weeks that they kept getting into fights and she said that she "needed a break". Well, now they are divorced, of course. This is why I think people don't take marriage seriously anymore. Their answer is let's just live together and that does not work because it's too easy to get out of. They don't want to try to sort out any disagreements. Why should they when they can just "take a break for awhile" and come back if the grass isn't greener on the other side? To me, that is just cheating (the legal way).

I think people are getting confused by the word "break".
Allie didn't mean "break up"
She meant "have a break from each other"
Which is an entirely different thing.
Just because you're in a relationship it doesn't mean you have to live in each other's pockets.
There's this thing called trust.
It means you can do things separately from each other and your relationship survives.
If it doesn't survive, then you don't really have a relationship.
Simple.

Ok, so does this "taking a break" have rules like no one can date someone else?

*sigh*

No.
It doesn't have rules.
If you have to say to your partner, "You can't date anyone else." There's no point in even being together, because you obviously don't trust them.