Would it be wrong?

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I know I've been whining a lot on these forums lately, but I'm invited to my friend's wedding tomorrow so these things have been on my mind a lot lately. Anyway, I really want a girlfriend. Never had one before. One of the biggest problems, though, is that I'm convinced that I'd be doing a huge disservice to any woman who was dumb enough to fall in love with me. Half the time I'm too moody and grumpy, the other half I'm too hyperfocused on whatever obsession I currently have to care/think about other people. That's just who I am, I can't change that. I'm so afraid that if I ever got into a relationship, the spark would fade and she would be miserable with me. I'd be too stubborn or too selfish to let her go, because I'm smart enough to know something like that would never happen twice, and she'd spend the rest of her life wishing she'd never met me. Are these kinds of feelings warranted, or am I just beating myself up for nothing?

I guess you need a girlfriend who thinks a lot like you do - preferable one who is also a highly creative nerdy Aspie type who doesn't mind being "ignored" at times and can keep herself perfectly occupied painting, or looking at bugs under a microscope, while you spend the dark hours creating new sagas on your keyboard. You do get such girls, but they are fairly scarce.

Weddings are a great place to meet to women as you'll probably be around women you've never met before and weddings are an occasion where social interaction is expected, so you can approach and talk to women and it's expected, it's not like approaching people unsolicited at a bar.