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17 Oct 2016, 10:58 am

Guys if you knew about another man followed your long term girlfriend around and was obsessed with them how would you feel about it personally?



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17 Oct 2016, 11:03 am

That's stalking. I hope you're not doing that.



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17 Oct 2016, 11:46 am

YippySkippy wrote:
That's stalking. I hope you're not doing that.


I kinda am :(



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17 Oct 2016, 11:46 am

Just. Stop.


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17 Oct 2016, 11:54 am

For f**k sake guys :roll: you don't have to be so blunt in your responses to my question.

A lot of rudeness on wrong planet although obviously being autistic we can't help but be blunt at times.



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17 Oct 2016, 2:21 pm

Can i ask what were you hoping for when you started this thread? That people would say they'd be fine with it so you could validate your behaviour?



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17 Oct 2016, 3:20 pm

Very upset and worried. I'd confront him and if he didn't stop call the police



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17 Oct 2016, 4:07 pm

It's just that I am obsessed with this girl :(



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17 Oct 2016, 4:47 pm

Obsess over objects. She's a person, and it sounds like she's made her choice.

I'm not being deliberately harsh, I think. You're in a pretty harsh situation, but that's reality. Anyone old enough who ever had an ounce of passion has felt some of the same pain, and a lot of them felt like theirs was the worst ever because that's how it feels.

However, you'll seem pathetic and scary if you follow someone who dumped you, not sexy and strong, and that's another harsh bit of reality.


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17 Oct 2016, 4:50 pm

jrjones9933 wrote:
Obsess over objects. She's a person, and it sounds like she's made her choice.

I'm not being deliberately harsh, I think. You're in a pretty harsh situation, but that's reality. Anyone old enough who ever had an ounce of passion has felt some of the same pain, and a lot of them felt like theirs was the worst ever because that's how it feels.

However, you'll seem pathetic and scary if you follow someone who dumped you, not sexy and strong, and that's another harsh bit of reality.






Why pathetic and scary?



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17 Oct 2016, 4:56 pm

Jamesy wrote:
Why pathetic and scary?

Hard question. Watch some Law and Order SVU to get the basic cultural context.


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17 Oct 2016, 6:59 pm

I'd be pretty pissed if some guy was going after my girlfriend.

Wouldn't you be?



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17 Oct 2016, 7:11 pm

Its wrong to violate anyones personal space



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17 Oct 2016, 7:57 pm

Stalking is illegal is most jurisdictions. Besides there have been quite a few murders that started with stalking.



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17 Oct 2016, 8:35 pm

Not a good idea. I wouldn't jump right to hitting you, but you'd be confronted in a very unfriendly manner. Very unfriendly. You would be asked once to stop. Non-compliance would mean you'd be assaulted. Wrong or not.

While every man may not think like this, I can assure you I am not the only one.

Besides, you shouldn't stalk anyone. It's not going to do anything but makes them afraid of you. No one likes being followed or watched. Just trust me. No one.



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17 Oct 2016, 9:26 pm

It's creepy and pathetic. Why the hell would you even need to ask this?

Jamesy wrote:
For f**k sake guys :roll: you don't have to be so blunt in your responses to my question.

A lot of rudeness on wrong planet although obviously being autistic we can't help but be blunt at times.


They haven't been blunt. I'll be blunt though; you're a piece of s**t for doing this. STOP