Love

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What does it feel like?

How do you know what's love and what is just another infatuation?

Gee there's a million dollar question... I wish I could fully answer... other than I've always felt that love tends to last longer and I feel it deeper than an infatuation.

You know when it's love because when you are in love there is a deep, somewhat ill but also somewhat pleasant feeling in your stomach and your heart patters at incredible speed, and all that you can think of, no matter how much you try to set your mind to other things, is the one whom you love, of whom you are incredibly protective.
Infatuation, on the other hand, is more of a 'crush' that one will likely soon get over. When you simply are infatuated you can set your mind to other things, interspersed only with brief, fleeting fantasies of that person, who very likely isn't really your sort anyway (or isn't available). When you are infatuated with someone there is no lingering strong feeling whatsoever.
That's basically the difference, since you asked.

ah, me. ask a hundred people this question, and you'll get two hundred versions, at least. and it changes as you get older, i know - i no longer dream of the romantic "fireworks" (well, they'd be nice, but i ain't desperate for them), but of a relationship which feels like a comfortable chair - that's what endures.

i rather like the definition given towards the end of the film "This Year's Love", which seemed to cover quite a bit. but that's just my version

When your hugging or holding hands, or just laying next to someone, and you wish that moment could go on forever, and when they leave, even if it's just for a few minutes, and you feel cold and withdrawn while they are away, and when they return, you feel like your heart's gonna burst with happeness, thats love.

If you look for one thing called love you won't find it.

This had me stumped for ages but I realised that what people call love is really a mixture of positive emotions you might feel about someone.

Love probably feels different to everybody.

For me, when I am in love with a girl, the most apparent thing I feel is an intense desire to share everything I am and a desire to know everything about her. She becomes included into practically every thought I have and there is somewhat of a blending of identities.

There are countless feelings and “symptoms” one can feel when in love. However, there is one thing for me that distinctly divides infatuation and love: When another’s well being is more important to you than your own, then you are in love. One can have all the infatuation symptoms that are humanly possible, but without this one thing I wouldn’t call it love.

Self sacrifice, as was said above..... And it doesn't just apply to romance. Freindship is a form of love.....

Yes, I know the quote seems sexist, but its from a film, The Delta Force.....

And if the idea makes its way into an All Action America beats the badguys film, then obviously it is right...........

Thats why I think a firefighter is one of the greatest people you will ever know... They have decided on a career where they put their own lives at risk to save others. Same with the police, or doctors, or even soldiers.....

nice one BL, I agree.

Actually, it's from the Bible.

its also in Delta Force.

lord, lol

I believe the bible gets dibs on it first

I sought out the answer to that question about 7 years ago. Here is the best explaination I found and the standard I use.

1 Corinthians 13

Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing. Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part. But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away. When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known. And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

Every one is in 'luv', not 'love' these days. It really pisses me off too.
Luv is a demand, appearance and expentancy based situation. People in 'luv' seem to always want to be happy, when a rare bad day comes along they give up. Couples build demand lists for each other and usually they are unreasonable and cannot be completely met. Luv is replacing true LOVE everywhere. Beware 'luv', quicker, easier it is, more seductive at first...then soon it leads down the dark path.

Here's a poem I found years ago:

Chance cannot change love,
Nor time nor space impair,
For love is more than a feeling;
Love is a decision: a commitment to care.

Well of course the bible gets dibs. Its the guy playing the priest who says it