I'm Just Not Feelin' The Love

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Excuse me as I struggle with how to say this. I'm a guy who's never dated, much less pursued a woman. And frankly, I don't feel I'm missing anything. It seems that everyone is clamoring for just the right match in life except me. I wouldn't be averse to a close female friend I see every couple of days or so, but I'd prefer not to be intimate with her. And yes, every day is Sadie Hawkins Day for me.

So, my question to you: is there anyone else as committed to being single as I am? And IS there anything wrong with that?

The fastest growing population demographic in this country is people living alone. Whether it's never married, used to be married or whatever, it's a big trend.

There is nothing wrong to wanting to be alone. I have not dated. I sometimes wish I was, but I sometimes feel that life is fine and I'm not missing much also. I do not have a commitment to be single, I just am.

Nothing wrong. I am exactly the same way.

It's good to know i'm not alone in my way of thinking regarding this "issue". I am going to PM you some further detail on this issue about myself.

Yeah - I sometimes think it would be neat to have someone who cared about me, but in general I look at all the time people waste attracting and keeping a partner and think 'Wow - I'm so glad I don't have to put up with that!'

Given that everyone I run across pits their values in money and status, I find myself not caring anymore. If by chance someone real comes along then so be it. This is why people are alone. They have high expectations and unrealistic goals based on the media.

having very recently discovered my possible aspergers I'm currently in process of light being shed in lots of areas one of which is helping me recognise views on various things such as actually I don't want a relationship ( as opposed to continually hoping/craving/fearing getting one) and that alone doesn't necessarily equal lonely

You know what they say: "If you want someone to love you, get a dog."

I can barely keep up with the amount of time and emotional energy my two dogs require. I doubt I could cope with that in a human, and have to converse with them too.

The big drawback to being alone is that it's expensive. It's not so much that I want to be a couple, I've always found the notion of a couple faintly repugnant, but when I was younger I used to want what couples could afford, like trips overseas, getting a mortgage, a decent car etc. I suppose you have to make the compromise and be a two-headed monster to get that stuff.

There's a song on the radio at the moment here, it goes "You couples look ugly when you're alone, but together you're beautiful". I sort of understand that notion.

all you lot who DON'T want one... you lucky, lucky bleeders...

i've tried it and it sucked, every time. it's always been a huge relief for me to break up because it makes my life so much easier. i'm happiest alone. nothing makes me happier than coming home from work and locking the door behind me and knowing that i don't have to do anything for anyone or think about anyone else at all. i miss regular sex sometimes but it's so not worth all the crap you have to deal with trying to get along with a human.

I see nothing wrong with wanting to remain single and not date. As long as you're not saying that because you're really just to lazy to date. If you really wish to be alone, go for it.