Who do you think is lying in this friend/relationship situat

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I broke up with my gf after I talked about her before and got advice on this thread on here:

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Earlier in our relationship, before that situation from the other thread, something else happened, involving a friend.

About a year ago, my gf invited me and another female friend out. This female friend was part of my group of friends and I also went out on a few dates with her way back, but then we just decided to remain friends and she became part of my group of friends, cause my friends liked her.

Now my gf invited this friend of mine out, and me as well, but I couldn't come cause I already had plans to do other things. So my friend went out with my gf and my gf's friends without me, to a pub. My gf bumped into her parents while she was at the pub with her friends and my friend, and her parents joined her for a bit. Later on my friend told my gf and her parents about how we had sex years ago, and how I was the best in bed, and she went into explicit detail about it, to my gf, my gf's friends, and her parents.

Now I wasn't there so I was just going by what my gf told me. My gf told me this is what happened and this is what my friend said at the pub. But my gf's friends' also told me this as well and my gf's parents told me that my friend said this as well. I was so mad at my friend that I stopped talking to her after that, since I do not like my friend's sharing those things with my gf's parents.

If my gf is manipulative, do you think that she put up her whole group of friends and her own parents to lie about what my friend said, if she is? I mean I have trouble believing her parents would do that since they are nice people and I spent two Christmas's with them, as well as visited them on other occasions. But if my gf is not all who she seems, do you think she put her friend and her own parents up to lying about what my friend said, and that maybe my friend is innocent?

Thanks for reading the long message, and any honest advice and opinions. I really appreciate it

Wait... Your friends like this girl? And you're just friends now? Have you considered reconnecting with her, maybe giving her another chance?

I don't think your ex could have manipulated that many people into lying. That just doesn't sound right. I'm not sure why your friend disclosed all that unless she was drunk or something. That doesn't make what she did right, of course. But your ex and her parents are hardly relevant to your life right now. I say forgive your friend and investigate the possibility of giving it another go.

Assuming, of course, your friend is a fairly stable person who won't treat you less than dirt! At this stage, if you meet up with anyone, keep it casual for a few weeks so things can cool down between yourself and your ex. Good luck!