g0thgir1danie11e wrote:
Also, with my tendancy to obsess, it's better to get the possibility out of my mind through a failed attempt rather than to hang onto hopes that will turn out to be false anyway. In the case of friends it's a little different, but I still think it's best to find out sooner than later because the longer you keep the feelings secret, the more energy you invest in them, which may turn out to be a mistake.
Up until last year, I'd have agreed with you on that. Prior to that, I had the happy distinction of being able to forget about hopeless endeavours almost completely once I'd just got them out of the way.
Right now I'd kill to be able to do that
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Why so serious?