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Sadly my marriage broke down probably due in large part to my AS.
I was undiagnosed when I got married. And unaware of my problem.
I couldn't communicate with my wife and things became issues.
She didn't know I couldn't 'read' her as a person. This got put down to me being self centred.
Resentment set in.

I'm sorry that had to happen to you, and I hope you can learn as much as you can about your Asperger's, how it might affect your life and your communication and relationships with others, and how you can learn new social skills and how to deal with all this as possible.

I'd never know personally what it's like to be diagnosed later in life but I do know a lot of them have had it just as difficult as anyone else diagnosed earlier, just that the undiagnosed were never aware what 'the problem' with their life was and why they never 'fit in' or 'understood' things the way most others do.

If you're comfortable telling, was this a recent occurrence and how are you coping at this moment?

It's recent.

I had a nervous breakdown. But survived.

Coping ok now.

There's been 'too much water under the bridge' and I look back now and I don't see how it would have been different.

I was married at 28. 'diagnosed' at 33/34 but only come to the full realisation of it now at 41.

A similar thing happened to my own marriage.
The AS on my side of the fence.
A history of emotional abuse on her side of the fence.
Didn't have enough in common in general.

How can we help?

Very similar situation as yourself about 5 months ago. I'm still a wreck but dragging myself through.

Hi,

Thanks for your replies. I just wanted to share my story. Just to try and connect with people.

Things will be better in the future.

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Same I am 31 I was diangosised right before I hit 30 my wife left me in thanksgiving she moved to Florida the February.

I am still in Chicago and before I sought help everyone in my family old flames and such had their own opinions. When I sought help and made it known my family and old flames got deeply upset, deeply and claimed nothing was wrong with me and I needed to take responsibility. So I went from I was damaged and something was wrong with me to them going from that to instantly, okay.

When I got answers my psychologist warned me not to inform my employers just yet and to take my time which I did but I told my family and old flames and they were pissed.

You could hear the anger in my exes voice how she wishes she was there to tell them about the real me.