I want to dump everyone

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Maybe I'm not cut out for relationships. I don't know. I'm not even that cut out for other kinds of social relationships. I just don't like to accommodate other people in my schedule. If I make a schedule I want it to happen exactly as is. I don't want to modify it for anyone. It stresses me out beyond words of my day doesn't work out how I've envisioned it. Almost ALL of my close friends are on another continent. Skyping the parents cut into my productive hours (the couple of hours between lunch and dinner) because of timezone and they have all these demands on me and never seem to grasp how busy I am. My friends in America cut into my evenings. My friends from school also do that. Sometimes one of them just NEEDS to talk and there goes my plans. My roommate keeps wanting to hang out. Like every week he wants to do something and he also likes to hang out at dinner. There's only so many times I can make excuses without hurting his feelings. Between these social calls and group work and my overwhelming amount of school work I barely have any time for my own stuff. I'm on the verge of axing some of these relationships even though we've been friends for a while. I'm going insane. I'm sick of it. I'm done. No more people.

and this includes my boyfriend. I don't know. I have HUGE sleeping problems and lately I'm having trouble dealing with having to sleep in the same bed as someone else. one movement from him and I'm liable to wake up so it doesn't help that he likes to snuggle in bed. How do I tell him not to touch me without starting a fight? I don't know. Not sure I can. But I'll need either separate beds or separate blankets. And when I wake up I have enormous trouble falling asleep. It's become a pattern. When I can't sleep I get anxious and angry because it always means the next day is going to be AWFUL and I won't be able to do my work then I'll be behind and more stressed out. And when I get anxious it's guaranteed I won't fall asleep until it's so late that I will get like 2 hours of sleep in total at best. I'm trying to sleep early and wake up early because it's the only schedule that's healthy for me (like at 10 PM) and with him it's just hard. It's enormously hard. I guess few sane adults keeps these hours so I just can't have a social life if I do, him included. So he wouldn't support my sleeping early. In fact he'd enable me. Even though I said I'd like to sleep early from now on he'd lobby for watching a long movie at 9 PM. Or going to a club. Or "you have to see this thing on YouTube!" It's like even though he knows how severe my problem is he still wants me to do what he wants to do at the cost of my possibly staying up all night. And when I say I can't he's like "oh come on." I mean I GET that it must be boring to date someone who keeps senior citizen hours and all. I just don't know why he can't be supportive of it. If you can't deal with it just dump me already.

I'm at the end of my rope. Stress is killing me and people are making it worse. I'm drained. I want to dump my friends and my boyfriend even though they've done nothing wrong per se. I don't want to deal with other people's demands and other people's routines and other people's schedules anymore. I

I think don't be afraid to be firm with your friends with your boyfriend. I don't know long you been with him, but make very made very clear where the issue is. Make clear to him it is too much, if needbe, say to him you need some time apart, or at least not sharing a bed with him. I would recommend not suddenly dumping him, with a relationship this can have quite a powerful hurtful negative effect,.

As for your friends, tell them, you have things todo, tell them you will talk to them when you are free, tell them you will catch them later. Tell your housemate you want to get things done. Be polite at first, but don't be afraid to get sharp if they don't take the hint nicely.

Show him this post, there's literally nothing we can do here to help.

Not sure you need to cut everyone else, perhaps just try and be more firm about your needs. Like if you need to go to bed and your boyfriend suggests something else just tell him you really need to sleep but he can stay up if he wants. Of course he might be bothered if you 'never' want to go out at night or watch a movie.