Talking to a girl I met at Halloween party

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So I talked to a girl at a Halloween party hosted by the local Asperger's group. She was very forward about her intentions (which I assume she has some type of autism too), so should I worry about pursuing it. I got her number and she has mine. I have the feeling that like my last girlfriend, she is going to have anxiety issues that make it hard. She is more low-key, not the really "hot body" type, but I don't have a problem with this. She's still cute in my eyes.

She even told me she has emotional anxiety and spends some of her time in her room crying. I'm very cautious about pursuing a relationship like this.

You can ask me more questions, but what does WP think?

I think I should try giving her a chance at least.

Such encounters don't deserve threads, K_Kelly.

Do you really think she cares equally that much about you to talk it about it to her friends or even to create a thread for it?

Don't give them too much importance so quickly, she probably just see you as a acquaintance for now.

What were her intentions btw?

Meh... This can really go any direction you want. I say go for it. No harm comes from trying.

Just remember one thing. It's hard to get out of a relationship with a crazy person. If she is unstable (come on, who here isn't?), in YOUR case you might find her relatable. I've been in a relationship where emotional and personality issues spun wildly out of control, and ending it was very difficult. I had to become a very tough and firm person, and I just don't do tough or firm.

Some folks can handle that, and that's fine. If she complains of anxiety issues, it is worth your time to discover what other problems she had that she might be hiding. If you are able to separate yourself emotionally from that and help lead her to resolving those issues on her own, you might succeed long term. Just be clear in communicating that you are there to support her, not enable her, and you absolutely will not allow yourself to be brought down by her problems, whether real or conceived.