Friend in love with girl who only makes him depressed

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So I have a very good friend who is an absolutely wonderful person. I'm just gunna tell you a bit about him because it matters to the situation.

He is very obese and suffers with agorophobia so never leaves his house. He is extremely depressive and gets very lonely. He is a lovable person who just wants to have a gf he can love. He is funny and an around great guy.

A whole back he met this girl. It seemed pretty harmless but they got closer to the point where they were exchanging sexts. However she has a boyfriend in America. When my friend (M) confronted her with his feelings she said no to him because of her boyfriend.

Not only that but she started to guilt trip him telling him she should kill herself cause she is a horrible person and that she is 'hitting her head against the ground'. M gave in apologising (god knows why) and the relationship continued.

He had bought her expensibe gifts and gives her all the attention whenever the craves it. She makes everything about her.

That was a while back. Recently M made the decision to try and end the romance part completely due to the negative effect it had on him. I sat and read through the messages which were clearly manipulative and made to make him feel like absolute s**t.

M nearly committed suicide this weekend. My fiance took the pills from his hand. The whole time ths was happening she still made it all about herself telling M she was hurting herself because of him.

At the same time she was talking to me about wanting a cat.

I am fustrated and angry but my fiance keeps telling me not to get involved. She may not be doing it on purpose but she is messing up my friend. What can I do to help or deal with this?

Why are they sexting if she has a BF?

Girls who pay any attention to me usually start sexting really fast then get bored and get a real man. When is sexting normally suppose to start?

I really don't know what to do about the situation other the I'm slightly jealous of him

My opinion is the guy seems like the type who needs someone to step in a little and stick up for him actually.

Somebody like (M) can be very easily manipulated and emotionally damaged by such a person as this girl. Why is she doing this? Any idea? Is it really just to milk the guy for gifts?

If this is the case I think if there's some way you can get involved you should. If the guy is basically a shut in, no one will be around constantly to help him not kill himself, though someone trying to take pills in front of someone else is likely not serious about trying to kill themselves just yet. But they want help. He may be in a situation emotionally he cannot handle, and if he's in unfamiliar territory, he needs help. I feel it's your duty as a friend to do whatever necessary to help him out with this.

I would.

If I were you, I'd not listen to your fiancé and butt in. That woman is tormenting your friend, isn't she? If you truly care about him, you'll want to do your best to help him, and sometimes, that means working without thinking.

He should drop her like a hot grenade. She's making him seem ridiculous.

Well he has his fair share of blame, because he seduces and buys stuff for a girl who has a boyfriend and has already said no to him.
First he should stop talking to her, then he should do something about his obesity and, if it is possible, his agoraphobia