Still haven't found a girlfriend

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I am 24 years old, i've never even kissed a girl or even hold a hand of a girl. I Feel very sad. I am doing travel & tourism but the trouble is most girls at the college are 16-20 and either have boyfriends or don't seem interested. My stepbrother and stepsister both have partners. My stepbrother is always bringing his gf over to visit my stepdad/mum and my stepsister went on holiday with her partner.

I don't know what to do. I want to be the one that brings his gf is visit my dad/stepmum or my other family. Dating sites don't work, i'm on plenty of fish and i never get any replies. What do i do?

What do i do? What can be my next step

please help

Do you do anything to go out and meet girls? I know girls at college are younger. I'm a mature student at uni and the oldest guy there is 23 so I can't exactly go and date him, despite me finding him handsome. Go and find one girl and spend a lot of time with her, but apparently not to much as NT people seem to dislike that. Find out if you have things in common beyond college which will hopefully build you more into a natural relationship.

If you're working with tourism and travelling, there is probably a lot of women who will find you interesting.

You've already tried online dating, so I suggest you try speed dating or something like this. It's a meetup where you quickly introduce yourself to a lot of women, and at the end of the night, they come up to you if they are interested. I don't know if that is your thing, but you may like it better than online dating.

Another thing to try is to get a new (social) hobby - like volunteering, or joining a NGO or a political party or anything else that interests you - that way, you can meet new people. This option takes time, and you shouldn't do this only for the reason of meeting women.

It's okay that you haven't had a girlfriend or had romantic experience - but I suggest you keep it to yourself, as some grown up women may be put off by that.

You will find yourself a GF someday, so don't rush it. Have patience.

I mean as long as you keep trying to find a girlfriend, talk to as many girls as possible, and look for opportunities and seize them, you will find a girl someday.

I asked out and got rejected by 5 girls and it hurt every single time, getting rejected what feels like constantly is a huge self-esteem breaker, it makes you feel like trash. But one girl finally said yes and she was my girlfriend for 6 months and even though it ended badly, I don't regret ever being in a relationship because it's what I always wanted and I learned so much about women and sex and how to please a woman, i'm still not perfect though lol.

Once you experience spending the night cuddling up with a girl you love, it's hard to go back to sleeping alone. I miss the relationship feeling but I want it to be with someone that is loyal and i'm compatible with.


The best advice I can give you is, the worst thing you can do is not take a chance.

Hi, I had a great evening today, I met up with a few mates and went out to the Christmas live event. No girls but i was invited round my mates house to watch the fireworks and have a cup of tea. It got me thinking i will get a girlfriend one day, the right Girl just has not found me yet and i haven't found her. She is there somewhere in the world and we both need to find one another. I am only 24 and the only thing that gets me down is my small penis but hopefully that will improve once my weight goes down. I have my whole life ahead of me

I didn't have my first girlfriend until I was 25, so you still have plenty of time. I had actually given up looking for one when someone just happened to unexpectedly pop into my life one day. Like AnonymousAnonymous said, don't feel you have to rush it.

how do you know that? that's just an empty platitude. plenty of autistic guys die virgins. my advice to the OP would be YES rush it, and lose your patience, or you'll end up regretting not putting more effort in. you need to put in MUCH MUCH more effort than the average NT, so get to it.
i am almost 22 and in the same position and i already regret being so complacent.. but at least you're leaving the house so that's a start.

No if you rush it too much and are too impatient you're more likely to scare potentially interested girls away. Of course don't passively sit by and do nothing either....it is a good idea to go out places you might meet people. Perhaps make a profile on an online dating site since then if you get on with anyone there you could maybe meet IRL. But yeah if you come off as rushing it too much that won't work to your advantage it could either sort of scare them away because you may come off as wanting to take things too fast or they might see it as you being desperate and end up trying to just use you in the relationship.

I Had a great day today. I went to the Pantomime to see Cinderella with my drama group for people with disabilities. Before anyone says i could date one of the girls there i can't really because they are all less able then me. My mate is the only one who goes there and him and me are one of the more able ones. But i had a great time and i won't rush trying to find a gf but i won't go slowly.


I Suppose the only trouble i have is how to talk to girls, I don't like internet dating, ive tried that and i never get any messages on Plenty of Fish so without online dating what do i do

So What steps could i take to find myself a Girlfriend. Plenty of Fish is not working and the only people that want to meet me are these spams/Fake. My Grandad is going into a care home soon and i don't have the money to get on proper dating sites. Some days i feel positive some days i don't. I Still live with my stepdad and Mother and still at college. Im 24 and the girls at my college are 16-20 i dont know anyone near my age. My stepbrother is at university, he is coming over with his girlfriend this xmas and now my grandad is in a care home i will feel more alone then ever. I Would love it if soon i will find a girlfriend and bring her over to visit my mum and stepdad and bring her over to my dads house to visit him and my stepmum like my stepbrother and stepsister do now.

I Go to a drama group but that won't find me a gf because the girls there have major disabilities and can't even spring a sentence together. What do i do, i mean if i go up to a girl and talk to her they might have partners for think i'm a perv.

Stop focusing on trying to find a gf and start focusing on yourself.

Anyone who is actively looking for a gf may appear desperate and that makes them unattractive. People who are seemingly uninterested or already taken are automatically more desirable. Further, being desperate for a gf may make you settle for someone you shouldn't be with just for the sake of being with someone for all the reasons you'd like a partner.

Stop what you're doing and start focusing on yourself. Diet, exercise, hobbies, interests, work etc - do the things that make you a happier, healthier, wealthier, more attractive you & then you'll be more desirable to women around you and then when you least expect it you'll end up having some zero-pressure conversation that leads to a date and then a phone number and then another date and another until one day you both realize you're in a relationship.

Trying to force these things is futile, IMO. To each their own.. but almost ALL of the relationships of people I know have happened much more organically like this than people "making" them happen by expending time and energy on trying to get a gf.

But the problem is i am 24 years old. I am getting older everyday. I mean haven't even held a girls hand let alone kissed her. I don't really have any friends that are girls. Every day that passes is a step nearer to me dying a lonely old man. I Don't want that. Girls don't even look at me when i'm out.

I mean look at me http://picpaste.com/IMG_1679-ZRjvmAe8.JPG http://picpaste.com/IMG_0875-SjlweasG.JPG

what girl is ever going to find me attractive

How on earth to i even start up a conversation with a girl. And how to i know if she is even single.

I mean if i say Hi, you look great today are you single it will look pervy and desperate

Just do what I had to do. Save up your money and rent an escort for an hour or two. Dont let your pride get in the way. Most naysayers to this solution are nt sociopaths anyhow. Who cares what they think.