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I went to a meetup style event for artists and photographers. I think the woman that was running it was about my age. She seemed like the most conscientious person I've ever met in terms of including everyone in the group. She was nice to me and she was nice to everyone. So I can't say that she likes me, but I know I like her, she was clever.

Now the next one is in two months. I will go. But I will be having silly fantasies about us somehow ending up in a relationship, because I am an idiot. Well I didn't get to talk to her a whole lot other than to say I will come to the next one but I did notice she has no rings.

I feel like It's such a mistake for me to think about it. If I think how happy it might make me then it won't come true. Also I feel guilty that I shouldn't be allowed to imagine that everything will happen the way I want.

Two months is a long time to wait. Maybe you should look her up on Facebook? Add her as a friend, and write a friendly, platonic email about how you liked the meetup and that you're looking forward to the next one. I think that would be the best thing to do here and now.

It's okay to daydream about someone, and you shouldn't blame yourself for that. But, reality beats fantasy any day, so don't just sit there - do something about it. Good luck

Thanks, I thought about that and it sounded like a good idea, eventually I sent the message at midnight that night, it hasn't been marked as read, I think she might be the type to not check her Facebook much but the suspense is killing me. I have signed up for some speed dating on Saturday because I will need it to take my mind off this.

This love thing is so not fun.

In my experience, adding almost-stranger girls (those you met once or twice...) does not really work.

Usually they DO accept the friend request, but the communication afterward is always one-sided (always initiated by you) and then I get fed up and forget about them.

She just replied and accepted my request, she thanked me, said it's fantastic to hear that I'm coming to the next one and she's looking forward to seeing me then. So that's all positive. Now just have to wait 2 months...

I might be pessimistic and cynic, but this is so typical at first....it doesn't mean anything.

Message her few times, and see if she will ever initiate messaging you during these 2 months, also try to come up with some outing where you can meet her in person (if you have any mutual friends).

Why can't you continue to talk to her on Facebook?

Maybe do some research and offer some advice pertaining to photography?

No there are no mutual friends. I could try spending more time at the gallery where she runs the meetup and she may or may not be there for the other events (I have no idea), or I could come up with something to invite her to even though we don't have mutual friends?

Or I could just talk to her on Facebook like kraftiekortie says but I'm conscious of the fact that one method might be better than the others for getting the result I want. I want to find out the best way.

Just had more of a look at her profile now that I can see the pictures, there are a few of her with a boyfriend character, the latest that I can see from July but they go back a while, you can see him go from a full head of hair to bald. So it's a proper LTR, I guess.

I wish I could just ask do you have a boyfriend. I wish I could just ask do you like me.

But I guess I am smart enough to know the answer already. I wish I was smart enough to know where 'my' girl is. She would like me, I'm an artist and a technician. I get paid to do what I want. I'm healthy. I don't get why she is hiding from me.