How to attract women

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I have a friend who also has Aspergers, plus anxiety, PTSD (he used to be a Marine), and probably a few other things he never told me about. He's decent looking but not overly attractive (I say that as a straight man). He's not rich by any means-- I probably have more money than he does. And despite all this, he's a freaking chick magnet! I don't mean to say he was promiscuous, he always wanted to be in a serious relationship instead of something casual, but whenever he broke up he would have a new girlfriend a couple days later. I've never been able to figure out how he did it, especially since I've always attributed my asperger's as the main reason women are never attracted to me. Does anyone know what you have to do to make yourself attractive like that? So that they'll want to be with you even though you're not the handsomest, suavest, richest, coolest guy around?

How do you know he had a new girlfriend a few days after? Did he tell you that, or did you see them together?

I know one thing that guys do that makes them really attractive is being able to talk to us and actually listen and then respond appropriately to what we've said. Holding our eye contact and smiling is good too.

I didn't see all of them, but I did see most of them so yeah I know he wasn't lying.

Is he popular with both girls and guys, or does he only get along exceptionally well with girls? He could just have a natural charisma that draws people to him, so perhaps he's good at leaving a good impression right away.

Anyway, from my point of view, a guy doesn't have to depend on his looks all that much if he has a lot of other things going for him. Good universal humour, presence, intelligence, and openness certainly can make it easier to get people to want to be around you. Still, having average-to-above average looks makes a dude even more approachable without trying very hard.

Maybe girls just warm-up to him easily because he makes them feel safe and comfortable to be around, or challenges them conversationally in a fun way. Girls don't like it when guys play too hard or too safe with them, so there has to be a bit of push and pull to keep them interested.

Don't underestimate the power of good masculine looks.
If he is ex marine then he probably in good shape too.

Ask him to post a pic of him here and let's objectively judge vs your pic; that's the only way to rule out the looks factor.

perhaps he just has more confidence than most (which is rare among anyone with autism)
perhaps he has a bigger genitals than most (which is rare among anyone with autism)
perhaps he is better at lying or game playing (which is rare among anyone with autism)

Perhaps he its his special gift?... like others are brilliant at science, IT, music.
Maybe he has worked a system to pull woman...

good luck to him...

perhaps you could ask him to share his secret...

And what happened to women's individualism here? Thrown out the window again?

I tend to be more attracted to men who take an interest in me. Building up some sort of rapport through talking is good. I kind of get the feeling most guys here don't really talk to women and that's a huge barrier.

Although, saying that, I don't like pushy guys. I've found some men on the spectrum are a bit too bossy. No one likes to be told what to do and being told, "you should do this," or "you should do that" is a big turn off for me. It's kind of hard for me to convey how aggressive that can come over. There's a line. Don't treat women like they are incapable of making their own decisions.

It's difficult to give help on how to attract someone because people have different preferences. There are very likely girls that are put off by your friend being such a chick magnet.

I personally wouldn't find a really outgoing guy who had lots of girlfriends attractive. I like a more awkward and sincere guy.

What I'm trying to get at is it may not to be to his particular attributes but maybe he just really puts himself out there.

What's annoying you most? The fact that he is successful with women, or the fact that you might have to accept your excuse for why you're not successful might be invalid?

Hang around with him in a social setting, or wherever he gets these girls, and observe him and how he interacts with women. If he is decent looking and has confidence and charisma then it's no shock that he also gets the girls. Unfortunately there are some things that are just too hard to learn. So many guys posting on this forum seem to think there is some kind of "trick" or silver bullet that guarantees success with women and that this "trick" can simply be put into a few words in a forum post to make anyone successful with women. It's just not that simple and thinking it is is doing you no favours as it is diverting your attention from the areas where you probably need it the most.

I imagine being a veteran is something a lot of people find attractive, would that be wrong?

Edit: WP is not letting me delete this post because I regretted it.

WTF?

These days I tend to have more confidence than most, and I agree, that's rare among anyone with autism.

But I've never ever EVER heard of any sort of correlation between genital size and autism, ever. That's just absurd. There are correlations to race, body composition and other factors.. but NT vs ASD brain types? I don't think so. Further, as a gay man who's also spent time in locker rooms as well as nude beaches, I've seen a lot of dicks and I've never ever made any sort of correlation of dick size to ASD. In fact, some of the biggest dicks I've ever seen have been attached to guys with mild ASD symptoms. Just saying.

I'm pretty good at lying and game playing if necessary. Also just saying.

Anyways, OP, maybe this guy just simply has what they call Charisma. You might not be able to quite put your finger on what it is about him that makes him so attractive to others.. but it may amount simply to the fact that he is charismatic and you are not.

Source on that?

I don't know about that, some of the biggest dicks iv'e met have been aspies.

And some of the biggest ones I've seen have been attached to aspies.