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Spot17
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17 May 2007, 9:43 pm

I feel like such an idiot.

I started dating this guy at my office at the end of last year. Everyone in my office dislikes this guy and told me to stay away from him. At first I listened to them but then I thought, "I shouldn't listen to office gossip, I should make up my own mind about this guy." He seemed really sweet and kind of shy at first. I won't go into details, but I broke up with him and got back together with him 5 times. In the end, I felt used, like I was good for sex and that was about it.

So for some reason, I couldn't get over this guy. So I, being an idiot, sent him a text message today telling him I miss him. I get back these replies asking if I want sex or if I'm just lonely. Then he calls me and makes it pretty clear that he doesn't give a rat's ass about me but is hoping to get laid.

I feel like such a naive dumb ass. I feel like I never want to do the dating thing again. My books don't hurt me, my pets don't hurt me. Why do I fall so hard for people who aren't worth it? Is it because all people out there suck? That's how I feel right now (by the way, I'm am pretty drunk at the moment too). I get so sick of putting myself out there only to get hurt.

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17 May 2007, 10:00 pm

Not ALL people suck. But most of them
do. Still, without a good indicator of
who is good for you, and who is not,
it comes to the simple question of
whether the chances are worth taking.

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17 May 2007, 10:35 pm

calandale wrote:

Not ALL people suck. But most of them
do. Still, without a good indicator of
who is good for you, and who is not,
it comes to the simple question of
whether the chances are worth taking.

Aye. what Cal said.

You get hurt by the 90% male who is a total scum bag and all he wanted/wants from you is sex and a good lay.

My dear child, look to the brighter side, there is always a new day and within a new day brightens the chances that success will always outweigh the failures that we have.

you learned from this, and now this will help you next time.

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18 May 2007, 2:12 am

Gamester wrote:

You get hurt by the 90% male who is a total scum bag and all he wanted/wants from you is sex and a good lay.

My dear child, look to the brighter side, there is always a new day and within a new day brightens the chances that success will always outweigh the failures that we have.

Dude, I think she is a little older than us. Look, unfortunately I don't know you, otherwise I'd send my baseball-bat brigade to your rescue. All kidding aside, forget him. There are some good men in the world. For the future though, most office gossip has some basis in fact.

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18 May 2007, 3:49 am

You're not alone. I've spent too much time with my own share of as*holes too. All men really aren't bad though. Just... a lot of them. *hugs* On the other hand, a lot of women can be bad too!

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18 May 2007, 4:19 am

Thanks everyone for the replies. I think I might have learned something about myself from this.

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18 May 2007, 4:20 am

You're not stupid, just human. Learn, live and move on as best you can.

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18 May 2007, 4:33 am

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Ok I guess I get to be the bad guy.

Hmm you got back together 5 times? You can't get over him "for some reason?" I wonder what the some reason could be... :roll:

Listen sweety, I have been the nice guy on the sidelines way too many times to feel the slightest sympathy for women in your situaton. You have made the decision that McSleazy's sexual prowess is more important than how he treats you. Well, that is your decision. Stop trying to have it both ways, and stop coming to nice guys like us for the emotional support you're not getting from Mr Stud. I for one am closed for business.

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18 May 2007, 4:37 am

I know how it feels to put your trust in people that don't deserve and get burned, believe me. The reason we go back and do it again and again is because of the few times you find someone who is deserving of it, it makes the rest worth it. So no, not all people suck, but the numbers are definitely against us.

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18 May 2007, 4:43 am

beautifulspam wrote:

Listen sweety, I have been the nice guy on the sidelines way too many times to feel the slightest sympathy for women in your situaton. You have made the decision that McSleazy's sexual prowess is more important than how he treats you. Well, that is your decision. Stop trying to have it both ways.

You don't know the details of the situation and I don't really want to go into them. The guy in question is actually, in my opinion, an Aspie. He's why I came across AS in the first place. And he came off as a nice guy - it wasn't until the end that I felt otherwise. I wasn't trying to have it both ways. I'm 33, not some teenager who doesn't realize the nice outside can hide an ugly inside. I read him and his feelings for me wrong. I see that now.

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18 May 2007, 10:50 am

Gamester wrote:

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18 May 2007, 11:06 am

Spot17 wrote:

beautifulspam wrote:

The words of wisdom incorporated as they are, sad as they are sometimes are the greatest word to mankind, letting one know of their mistakes. Spot, you have been hurt, that matters not, what matters is that thou hast realized that you can heal and heal shall bring you more closer to realizing what thou needst.

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18 May 2007, 6:37 pm

Gamester wrote:

Melodramatic much?

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18 May 2007, 8:54 pm

Esperanza wrote:

Gamester wrote:

Melodramatic much?

Nope. thats me soliloquing. or monolauging.

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