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I'm 25... sometimes I'm interested in girls in the 18-20 range. Just how creepy is this age gap...

I want to say no-way, since well it's a span of 7 years. But if we do get along, I start to think what does the age even matter...

But it's hard to get out of my head that the age difference would make me taking advantage of her or something...

This touches on a large issue of the importance of age in attraction, and age in everything in a relationship. Social skills wise, I'm more like a 20 year old. And I have a silly childish side to me... which tends to go away as people get older... is it really more about how people work together than age? This is what I think it should be like... but I guess there is some social conditioning that pushes me back to thinking a large age gap is somehow 'wrong'.

I don't think it personally matters as long as she is over the age of 18.

But it does make me wonder- Why exactly are you interested in 18-20 year olds?

I mean I don't think anyone at the age would be making a decent amount of money and it would look to me like the only reason you want to date is because of(You know what).

Because I'm still in college, and well I'm not very successful yet.

In many ways, I'm not much 'further' in life than ambitious people 20 years old.

If they were going after me for money they would be extremely disappointed...

I probably shouldn't imagine a relationship out this far, but it happens. I start to think what might happen if I meet a girls parents, would they look at me as some strange guy with a bad case of arrested development...

im 19 years old and i've actually been more interested in older women, like the 25-35 year range. but sadly i am a college student with nothing much to offer them except i'm marginally handsome and i have an ability to grow hair everywhere on my body but my face.

I'm 19 and I try to target +- 3 years as an age range...

But then the women that hang around me the most are usually -3 or -2 years... women my own age are just never around...

I'm a 20 year old woman (I still feel weird saying woman, I feel like I'm still a girl, but 20 year old girl doesn't sound right). Dating someone 5 years older wouldn't be a big deal to me although I doubt I'd go out with anyone older than that. When I was 18 I went out on a date with a guy who was 25. Since it was my first date (and last so far), the age gap did make a difference to me. Somewhere around 19 I think a few years started to matter less. Some teenage girls only date way older though.

That's usually because they are too young to drive, and they use sexual advances to goad a man into chauffering them around everywhere...

And at least you have one advantage over me... you've actually dated...

my parents are 6 years apart, my mom met my dad when she was 18 and he was 24... not too bad of an age gap, but really depends on the couple

age doesen't matter unless its a big gap in maturity. If the girls you are interested in seem interested in you and are at the same level of maturity as you i dont think the age factor matters. Its a sweet thing for you to be concerned that you are careful not to take advantage of younger girls.

Not creepy at all. When I was 18, I dated 25 and 26 year olds. I always liked older men because of their intellectual maturity. They, in turn liked younger girls because of their emotional immaturity and youthfulness and liking fun.

It is not creepy at all. As long as they are of age, it is fine.
Hey I'm 40 and I like guys that range from 18 - 77. Hey, what can I say.

^^ you are creepy

Actually, MANY teenage girls are quite a bit more mature than teenage boys. But the maturity gap reverses once people hit their 20s. I would say that women in their 20s are less mature than their male counterparts. Women dont fully mature socially and emotionally until they reach the end of their 20s. BTW LePetitPrince, there aint nothin wrong with Cougars!

I know quite a lot of NTs that have a relation with a similar age gap. I would not worry about it.

Just remember, age of 18 is the definite line.