How to go about getting a boyfriend?

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27 Nov 2016, 4:30 pm

Hello,

I've been single for a while now and I've decided I want a boyfriend again, but have no idea how to go about it. Purely as what worked in the past, playing mmo's isn't something I really have time to do whilst studying for my degree. Uni guys are out of the question though as I'm a mature student at 31 and I think the next oldest in my class is 23... So I spend a lot of time there feeling rather old and thinking I should of studied harder when I was young.

Thanks for you help :)



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27 Nov 2016, 5:19 pm

Go places where there are people. First hurdle is meeting single men.



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27 Nov 2016, 6:05 pm

Tinder - and pick.



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28 Nov 2016, 1:04 am

As I posted in another thread recently~ You could try meeting guys online like on dating sites or this forum for example. Some of us Aspies communicate better online because we express ourselves better through writing & feel less shy communicating with people online. We can meet people online that we would never come across offline. I met two exes & my current girlfriend on forums. I met the 2nd two on this one.


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28 Nov 2016, 5:06 am

Dating sites can be good, if you live in a large city its kinda easy, small towns not so much. I'm not really the type to go out to places like bars and clubs, not the kind of people I want to attract anyways. When you have a decent amount of friends that helps too, you end up meeting friends of friends, dated quite a few women that way in the past. Kinda depends on what you're looking for. Figure out where the kind of guys you are looking for hang out. Instead of waiting around, just go up to a guy and initiate a conversation, you never know where it may lead. Worst case if he is taken maybe you could become friends, guys always have other single friends you can meet. Basically the more you put yourself out there the higher your chances of meeting someone. I know, easier said than done, but if you want it you gotta do it.


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28 Nov 2016, 6:54 am

Find people who have the same interests, and who you connect with, and go from there.


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19 Dec 2016, 6:30 pm

Well, my Aspie GF found me via an app called Jodel (similar ones are Yakko and, to some extent, Whisper) and we had a blind date right there and then.



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19 Dec 2016, 6:54 pm

You're a female, just make your presence known and men will come to you.



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19 Dec 2016, 6:56 pm

Just go to the dancefloor at a club, soon enough there will be a line of guys waiting to hump your ass lol. Then you can pick someone to date or meet up with again 8)



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19 Dec 2016, 7:28 pm

Snowcone wrote:
Just go to the dancefloor at a club, soon enough there will be a line of guys waiting to hump your ass lol. Then you can pick someone to date or meet up with again 8)


She wants a boyfriend not a casual f**k. Why do guys assume its so easy :roll: if it were that easy i wouldnt have had my first bf when i was 19 and lost my v card at 18



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19 Dec 2016, 7:31 pm

What's MMO?

Probably the best place to get a nice guy is at a venue where you both are present to pursue your common interests.



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19 Dec 2016, 7:40 pm

Alliekit wrote:
Snowcone wrote:
Just go to the dancefloor at a club, soon enough there will be a line of guys waiting to hump your ass lol. Then you can pick someone to date or meet up with again 8)


She wants a boyfriend not a casual f**k. Why do guys assume its so easy :roll: if it were that easy i wouldnt have had my first bf when i was 19 and lost my v card at 18


One could at least try to figure out whethere there are relationship interests or not before sleeping with someone if its important.. I guess it's the same with any new person one meets that one cannot know if it'll be something casual or longer lasting..



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19 Dec 2016, 7:41 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
What's MMO?

Probably the best place to get a nice guy is at a venue where you both are present to pursue your common interests.


its a massive multiplayer online game. Bit like warcraft



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19 Dec 2016, 7:44 pm

I used okcupid, which as far as I can tell is hit or miss....but yeah did my best to make a profile that best represents me flaws and all, I didn't try and play up my persona or spend hours creating a perfect flawless picture to impress. I met some guys who proved to be wastes of time but eventually I met someone really awesome.


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19 Dec 2016, 7:47 pm

Snowcone wrote:
Just go to the dancefloor at a club, soon enough there will be a line of guys waiting to hump your ass lol. Then you can pick someone to date or meet up with again 8)


I believe we're talking about getting a boyfriend, which is hardly the same thing as a line of guys waiting to hump your ass. I probably would not be dating my boyfriend if I met him in a line of guys trying to hump my ass, as I would have found that disrespectful and gross.


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19 Dec 2016, 8:35 pm

I wouldn't recommend finding guys on mmos anyway, not intending to be a dick but that's where majority of all the man babies and depressed people are at - people often use mmos as a safe haven to hide away from the real world and responsibilities. What you wanna do is find an active/physical interest or a few of them you really enjoy and then join a meetup.com group for them. Don't pick one you won't enjoy though. My friend did this a lot and she found a lot of guys she actually really liked.

Also I agree with Sweetleaf about the line of desperate guys, that isn't where you find guys you want to do long term serious things with.


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