Should I try to get some closure with my ex-GFs parents?

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Basically me and my gf broke up cause of the reasons I talked about in some previous threads on here:

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I broke up with her a few months ago now. Basically her parents and I got along great, throughout the relationship course, and they did things for me and went out of their way for me. Where as I felt I didn't get the opportunity to do much back, before the relationship ended. I was wondering if I should try to get some closure with them, or keep on good terms, or should I... just forget about it do you think?

If you need some closure because you need to move on from this you could write them a letter explaining. I've done this before and even repaid my exes parents things they bought me just because it didn't feel right to take from good people. Sending the letter felt good because I ended up getting a nice thankful one back and it was much easier than face to face because I could get out what I really wanted to say. Maybe this could work for you?

Most people I guess would move on about it and forget but I always think if you leave it after you feel like this about it you'll always end up wishing you'd done something.

Yeah that's true. It's just my ex after the break up, said some things about me that made me really look really bad to my friends and family, and she didn't take it well, which I talked about it one of the threads before. So if she said the same things to her own parents, I am not sure if I should just stay clear, or whether or not I should talk to them and offer to pay them back or something.

I would just completely leave it. You shouldn't worry about what they think of you if they aren't in your life.

Some of the things you said in other posts were a bit troubling so it's likely they will not listen to you what every you say

Okay then. I just thought that maybe an attempt at it, was in order.

If we broke up and you decided to see my parents, I think my parents espically my mother, she'd be cross. Then again my ex's ex saw my ex's dad all the time. He still does every Sunday. So for me personally I would leave it though as I see it as weird, but apparently you can still remain in contact with your ex's parents.

Okay thanks, but what do you mean, when you say she should be cross?

My mother is NT, but hates people and generally a very antisocial person. If you showed up and wanted closure she'll be charming to your face but be thinking terrible things. My father, aspie, would probably ignore you and carry on gaming or watching tv and join in the conversation when he remembers someone else is there. Then he'd probably invite you around later. I do realise my family is very unique.

Stay away from them all or stalking might be added to her complaint.

Well I thought she was stalking me, where as I would just send a thank you email to her mom for closure in comparison, or something along those lines.

I would cut off contact with everyone involved with your ex. You never know if they took her side because you will easily look like the crazy ex if you keep coming back or tell your side. Plus she can twist it and say you're stalking her and they might believe her when they see you come back and you contacting her parents. Anyone who is abusive you go no contact on them and cut off anyone who is their friend and family. That is the only way you can move on and stay away from the mess. Stop answering her text messages and emails and quit opening them. Block her if possible, send all her messages to spam. Delete them whenever you see them but don't open them.

Your ex is very manipulative & can easily twist things around to make you look bad to her parents. You need to stay the hell away from her & people who are connected to her for your own safety. You don't want her going to the police about you.