Are love letters a good idea?

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So there is a girl that I like, I have liked her for a long time, and am going to tell her

I know that telling her face to face would be 'better' but I stutter and have trouble getting words out (you know how it is) and I get nervous and flustered around her which makes it worse. So I was thinking that by putting everything into writing my point would get across clearer, and I don't have to worry about accidentally saying something wrong.

So I was wondering if I it is considered acceptable to leave a letter like that, or if that is just something you see in fiction.

How well do you know this girl?

Is she in any of your classes?

If you don't know her too well, and she's not in one of your classes, I wouldn't write her a love letter.

I would really try to talk to her.

I've known her for 3 years, but only have really been friends with her for 1.5 years. We go see movies once and a while together.
We're both in marching band and wind symphony.

I understand you're shy.

But I would really make an effort to try to TELL her in person.

However, I don't think a letter would be so bad in this instance, since you've known her a while.

YES! Do the letter! I would absolutely swoon!

I think it is just so sweet when someone who was given love letters keeps them forever and then is able to pull them out years later and read them again. That's just so romantic!

I wrote a girl a love letter once in high school. I was so shy and she was in the popular crowd. I had admired her for a few years and finally I went for it because I had seen the movie Can't Hardly Wait. In it there is a nerdy guy and he gets the girl with a letter. She is so moved they end up being a couple forever. I felt like I was watching myself on the screen. It's cheesy high school stuff but I was in high school so I did not see that.

So I wrote her a poem. I was a bit of a Goth then so looking back I see it was a bit weird especially if you do not know me. At the bottom of the note I wrote "Mr. Miner would like to talk to you" with my number at the bottom and my real name in place of my screen name here. I honestly thought she would think it was a romantic thing to do and if she would just call me first I would be able to talk to her. And since this was high school I ask her to prom and we are a couple then.

I looked up her class schedule in the office behind the back of the adults in the office. I then went to one of her classes and gave her my poem in an envelope with her name on it telling her it was from the office. Also not telling her I was the guy writing it. I really did not think at the time how strange that would be when she realized that had she called me.

This was on a Friday. I waited all weekend for that phone to ring and I was so sad when it did not. On Monday it did ring but it was a male asking for me. I said yes this is Mr. Miner and turns out this male was a cop. I had scared the hell out of this girl and her parents were convinced I was dangerous. Since I had never talked to her she did not recognize my name. Like I said I understand now my poem could be scary. The cop was nice once I explained what I was trying do at least.

But looking back it would have been so much easier had I just said something face to face. The real world is not a romantic comedy. I was so embarrassed after that I never tried to talk to her again. I went my whole senior year still liking her but hoping to not see her in the halls.

Yes, write the letter!
But read the good advise that was given on your post. Don't be overly romantic or write things that could be mis-interpreted in a 'scary' way.
I think receiving a letter feels very special, especially in these times when quick emails and texts are common.

I got some love letters over the years from, let's call them 'admirers'. None of those became a romantic thing in my case because my feelings weren't the same as theirs. But i still appreciated their efforts and was flattered they liked me that much, and i told them i did.

I sure hope she likes you back and that this will be a romantic story!
Keep us posted

Unfortunately many see them like this nowadays:



I'd consider it romantic, though!

I'm not gonna tell you whether or not to do it. I'm just going to tell you to be careful which font you pick.

I write in upper case a lot.
Damn.

Don't listen to the ladies here; they are adult women while your crush might be an immature bitchy prick. Don't write a letter.

Back at school, my best friend begged me to write a love letter address to his (popular) crush because I was good at (arabic) writing.
He sneakly put the letter in her bag, it was simply an admiration confession and there was nothing sexual or anything of the sort; we were like 10 or 11.
Next morning the girl made a scene of crying in front of her friends, and then things turned from drama to mockery and bullying against my buddy, and showing the letter to everyone. He ended up hating her so... so much.

Her girl-friends also mocked me for guessing I was the one who wrote it. They kept bringing it up for a year.

I remember she even showed the letter, in class, to the teacher and when she read it she was like "aww that's so cute", I still remember how disappointed she looked at this moment.

Oh I saw her recently in an event; man, as snobby, she didn't change.

Hmmm with experiences like those of Face of Boo... i would hesitate too... this is not what you want it to turn out to.
Difficult!

At least you know her from being friends, right? So you can maybe get a clue of if she would react at least politely?

I'm an adult woman and I would not recommend writing a letter. It works in the movies but not in real life. These movies and stories are written by men - so it's the male fantasy - nerdy guy only has to write a romantic letter and the hot girl will see through his nerdiness and fall in love and they'll live happily ever after.

It doesn't work that way.

If you like her and you already see her once in a while, just talk to her. Ask her if she wants to go somewhere with you. You should have a better idea of whether or not she likes you from her response.