Why are things awkward between us ?

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I had an interest in co-worker who works for the same company but different departments. We had little to no work related interactions. He was always friendly so one day I worked up my courage to give him my number. I handed him a pre-written number on piece of paper and told him to text sometime.He said sure.I was so sure he felt the same way and was going to text me .However,i ran into him the next day and the first thing he sais was"not only did I lost your number but I broke my phone last night while playing soccer.He expressed his disappointment in losing his phone but he didn't ask for number again.I knew this was lie so I didn't press the issue.

Things have between us has never be the same since.He was still cordial but distant and standoffish..especially the next time we saw each other.He subsequently quit his day position because he got a job at other facility during the day.He started working evening shifts so we didn't run into each other anymore.However,last week he had to come back to day shift because he has to replace someone who is on vacation.Nedlessly to say,things were awkward between us.I tried to initiate a conversation and he answered..but he was standoffish and avoided eye contact.He also showed zero intrest in conversing with me.

I just wish things will go back the way they used to.I don't want that tension since we work in the same place

yup been there. Not much you can do about it except for give him some space
He may become more cordial in time when he feels like you're over it.

Yep. Been there a few times, too. You just have to let him go. I would smile and nod and be like "work" friendly, but that's it.

"I broke my phone." LOL... yeah.

I've been there too; she made things difficult for me until she quit to join the marines. Unfortunately there isn't much you can do except try to keep your distance when you can & only speak when you have to say something to him.

In a strange way, his lying to you was an attempt at kindness.

NTs regularly lie to each other, it is how they manage not to kill each other because they can be pretty self-centered, and the lies have a dual role of saving themselves and the other pain, but it really doesnt work so well on us because we are not really part of their web of lies and ambiguities. We have a different social interaction, my default setting is honesty and it has taken me 40 years to learn how sometimes lie like an NT (only for work).

In a strange way, his lying to you was an attempt at kindness.

NTs regularly lie to each other, it is how they manage not to kill each other because they can be pretty self-centered, and the lies have a dual role of saving themselves and the other pain, but it really doesnt work so well on us because we are not really part of their web of lies and ambiguities. We have a different social interaction, my default setting is honesty and it has taken me 40 years to learn how sometimes lie like an NT (only for work).