Does giving a guy/ man your number without him asking for it

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Months ago I gave this block a pre-written number on piece of paper and told him to text me sometime because i wanted to get to know him bettter.The next day he tells me that he lost it and broke his phone but didn’t ask for it again.This was clearly a polite brush off so i didn’t press the issue nor did i bring it up again.I was dissapointed but I didn’t see  it as a big deal to me
However,even after all this time,he acts awkward with me and avoids eye contact.We work for the same company but different departments .I mean it’s not a big deal to me and would like things to get back to normal.why does it have to be awkward ?Does giving a guy your number without him asking for it translates “I’m in love with you,lets get married”?

He's embarrassed and feels bad so he's avoiding you.

Additionally, I think that he probably thinks that any friendliness he shows to you will be misinterpreted, so he is choosing to keep his distance.

Maybe for NTs, unfortunately.

He said he lost the number which was an excuse of why he didn't call you. He didn't ask for it again because he isn't interested. He feels weird and avoids you because, yes, when you give a guy your phone number it means you are interested in them as more than just friends.

Actually, you just learned something about the guy. In your shoes, if he had been interested in a girl in the past, he'd have interpreted any later sign of friendliness as sexual interest. So he thinks you're the same. It doesn't enter his head that you are much more cool about it, hence the really unsubtle hints and the awkwardness.

I would probably behave exactly the same as him if I am not interested.

And yes, a woman giving a number on a paper to man = interested. Not necessarily love like the way you exaggerated , but it certainly a strong sign of interest.

Women just don't give their numbers unsolicited to guys they find unattractive, never in a million years.

There's no problem with giving a guy your number... If he fancies you back. Then it's all fabulous. If he's not interested it's awkward.

The fact that you work together, even in different departments, could add an additional layer of awkwardness for him. Have you considered saying something like, "Hey, I noticed that things have felt a little different since I gave you my number and I don't want anything to be weird between us. Can we rewind and just be cool?"

Here to prove you wrong lol

I wouldn't give my number unless they ask for it. They should give theirs and you call them if you're interested.

I think giving a text number is much more accepted now.

The guy is probably not attempting to be mean, he just doesn't want to send any signals that could be misunderstood. I second the recommendation made by Dreambrother. "Hey, I noticed that things have felt a little different since I gave you my number and I don't want anything to be weird between us. Can we rewind and just be cool?"

That doesn't promote equality very well, though. Both parties should be free to offer their contact information if the setting is appropriate for it.

I hate to say it but maybe he like really, really doesn't like you and is simply disturbed you ever even got it in your head he'd be interested enough for you to give him your number.

How was the relationship before you gave him your number was he actually friendly to you and the two of you could comfortably socialize...or was he just polite/professional but not particularly friendly? Perhaps I am being to negative but being a rather unusual person myself I have certainly gotten the impression some guys would be disgusted if I was interested in them romantically.

People are weird. You can't control others so it's healthy to just accept the fact that sometimes people will do things like this and we have no way to control what happens.

I definitely wouldn't let this discourage you from giving your number out in the future though.

Seeing the variety of responses here I'd say that you just go for it next time. Some men will like it some men won't, but you won't know till you try.

I've swapped numbers with men a few times, me being the one who said. "hey what's your number so I can let you know if I'm organising some thing." I've never had a no or a false number. Never had a date out of any of this effort, but hey ho that's life.

You would have to be a woman to know what I'm talking about. Of course, guy's want equality and having women do the asking because they don't want to - understandable. However, in all of my experiences, the guy always thought that I was easy. You give them an inch and they think you want to jump their bones for Christ's sake, when all you really want to do is get to know them some. When I asked guys out, I even paid. Tbh, it felt weird and like I was the one wearing the pants. I didn't really respect the guy in the end. Those dates never really went anywhere. Younger men don't want to believe it, but for decades men have asked women out and paid for the dates and opened doors. It's going to be hard to change that because that has been tradition. Unless you date a feminist, most women are going to expect that.

What, I didn't know this (well maybe I sub-consciously did), was that why girls kept giving me their numbers? What about the ones that were always looking at me all day in class whilst all the guys were looking at her?