Depressing Either Way

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Seems like I've got two options when it comes to romance. I can...

1. Keep trying, and keep getting rejected by every single girl I talk to.

or

2. Give up entirely and resign myself to being alone forever.


Both of these are really freaking depressing. Even when a girl strikes up a conversation with me, I go into it knowing that she's going to dump me, probably before we even go on a single date. But every time I go to delete my dating site accounts, I get so depressed just thinking about it that I can't bring myself to do it. I know I'll never find anyone legitimately interested in me, but for some weird reason I can't do the smart thing and give up.

I'm just venting here. I don't even know what I expect anyone to say to this. Sorry.

I really sense that you will find a girlfriend soon.

I don't know why.

But I sense it.

I wish I had your confidence. Seems like every girl worth dating/marrying around here already is. All that's left over are the ones who won't give you the time of day 'cuz they're holding out for their sparkly vampire millionaire movie star boy band singer Chippendale dancer with a mansion on the beach in Hawaii and a thing for out of shape girls who are way below their league (did I miss anything?), and the ones nobody would want to date anyway. I mean, no offense, but... they exist. In fact, I'm probably the male version of one of those.

If finding love is important to you, keep trying.

Well, yeah. If she's attractive, interesting, intelligent, and healthy, she probably found her life partner when she was 19. And not coincidentally, the guy she's with is also probably attractive, interesting, intelligent, and healthy. If you want to date better quality women, you gotta be a better quality guy.

Being in a relationship isn't always great. Maybe you can be happy alone? Many people are.

You might find that if you stop trying so hard, the right person will come along.

Basically this.

A lot of the time, like attracts like. If you genuinely think you're a male version of 'the ones nobody would date', don't be surprised if that's all you can attract.

Why do you think you're not having much luck with dating? What can you change to be more appealing to a partner?
Are you asking anything of a potential partner that you can't provide yourself? Aside from sexually dimorphic features, of course.

While i do see your point alot of quality women wait till they are older sometimes (usually to focus on their careers)

There's a part of me that always wishe's I hasn't gotten into a relationship so young and ws still single now so I could move for my work without having to worry. I'd happily go to live in a different country but I can't.

Also my brother met his girlfriend when they were 24 and she is fricking stunning and she is working her way to be a paralegal.

If you think that you aren't conventionally attractive, then looking for a conventionally attractive woman is probably unrealistic.

It's not really that I think I'm completely unattractive, it's just that I'm unattractive to the women where I live. Like I've said lots of times before on here, I like to read, write, play video games, and watch nerdy shows on Netflix. What everyone around here, including the women, enjoys is huntin' fishin', pickup trucks, twingy twangy country music, and watchin' football, son, YEEEHAAAW! And the three or four ladies who lives near me who are actually interested in the same things I am are, like I said, either already married or are convinced that Robert Pattinson/Johnny Depp/Shia Lebeuf/Whatever Heartthrob is popular this week is going to swoop in, all shirtless and glistening and sweep them off their feet.

I think it's time you just pack up and go to a Star Trek convention.

This is where my career and my family is. I can't just pack up and move.

You know I didn't mean literally relocate somewhere else!

It's actually a nice area--NW Arkansas.

I mean....just go somewhere nice for a few days.