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spiderman123
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05 Feb 2017, 12:31 pm

am i missing out not having sex?


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07 Feb 2017, 10:28 pm

yes



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08 Feb 2017, 2:01 am

ShadowProphet wrote:
yes

I did see that one coming.


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08 Feb 2017, 11:32 pm

Probably not... but then again I never got the urge.



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09 Feb 2017, 1:38 am

Can't miss what you never had, right?

It varies by person, their level of desire.

People can have an organism on their own, so unless they just want physical contact in an intimate setting, not sure why people feel they need sex so badly. Societal pressures? I think a lot of it has to do with feeling like we can have sex. That it is abnormal to not have sex. Or that we are undesirable if we can't find a willing partner.

Edit: I'm having some connection issues so I'm sorry if this posted more than once.



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09 Feb 2017, 2:44 am

Sex is a team sport. You need a trusted partner to really excel.



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09 Feb 2017, 8:14 am

I used to get really frustrated and really horny.

Then I discovered the fine art of Masturbation.



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09 Feb 2017, 10:21 am

HouseOfMadpeak wrote:
Can't miss what you never had, right?

It varies by person, their level of desire.

People can have an organism on their own, so unless they just want physical contact in an intimate setting, not sure why people feel they need sex so badly. Societal pressures? I think a lot of it has to do with feeling like we can have sex. That it is abnormal to not have sex. Or that we are undesirable if we can't find a willing partner.

Edit: I'm having some connection issues so I'm sorry if this posted more than once.


All the societal pressure really can sound like "badvertising". It's like some pitch guy telling me how much I need Product X, never mind that Product X is not going to pay my bills, cure my diabetes, or make me a better person.

One thing I've always wondered... if one "scores", why isn't there a point system, and a way to redeem those points for prizes? Seems like an awful lot of hassle for a pleasure rush that's only going to last a few seconds.



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09 Feb 2017, 11:02 am

Yes and no.

If it's just to get off, then no you're not. Anyone can get themselves off.

If it's really for love, then I'd say so... if you're in love, it makes it 100 times better! it's the ultimate connection you can have with someone else.



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09 Feb 2017, 12:02 pm

LonelyRabbit wrote:
Yes and no.

If it's just to get off, then no you're not. Anyone can get themselves off.

If it's really for love, then I'd say so... if you're in love, it makes it 100 times better! it's the ultimate connection you can have with someone else.


If it is the act of sex, it is a much different sensation to masturbate, than to fully penetrate a woman and feel the warmth and everything else associated with the act. Anal is also a different sensation along with oral. There is a good reason guys have a fascination with blowjobs, anal or vaginal penetration and a hand job is... just a hand job though better than Rosey. I guess there are artificial ways of simulating sex, but I imagine it is much the same as the difference from being with a man or pleasuring yourself with a dildo or vibrator. Obviously the vibrator is better. :lol: Not all orgasms are equal, but you are right the one associated with someone you love are likely going to be better thanks to dopamine and serotonin because we are with someone we love and next our brain dumping oxytocin during an orgasm to strengthen that bond.


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09 Feb 2017, 12:26 pm

Yes, you're missing out on kids and VD.


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09 Feb 2017, 12:46 pm

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Yes, you're missing out on kids and VD.


While the clap may be fun and all, unfortunately they invented condoms and dental dams. But at least we still get crabs. They can't take our crabs Bob.


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09 Feb 2017, 1:00 pm

blackicmenace wrote:
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Yes, you're missing out on kids and VD.


While the clap may be fun and all, unfortunately they invented condoms and dental dams. But at least we still get crabs. They can't take our crabs Bob.


cant get crabs if you have no hair :D



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09 Feb 2017, 1:03 pm

Alliekit wrote:
blackicmenace wrote:
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Yes, you're missing out on kids and VD.


While the clap may be fun and all, unfortunately they invented condoms and dental dams. But at least we still get crabs. They can't take our crabs Bob.


cant get crabs if you have no hair :D


Don't tell Bob! :wink: Okay Bob, I've got really bad news. They're taking our damn crabs too. :cry: We still have our 70's and 80's bush porn where crabs roamed free from extinction.


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09 Feb 2017, 1:35 pm

Some of us don't need sex because we have hella imaginations.

But you can never get to experience that if you're stuck experiencing the world in primitive stick-figure vision.



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09 Feb 2017, 9:41 pm

blackicmenace wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
blackicmenace wrote:
Homer_Bob wrote:
Yes, you're missing out on kids and VD.


While the clap may be fun and all, unfortunately they invented condoms and dental dams. But at least we still get crabs. They can't take our crabs Bob.


cant get crabs if you have no hair :D


Don't tell Bob! :wink: Okay Bob, I've got really bad news. They're taking our damn crabs too. :cry: We still have our 70's and 80's bush porn where crabs roamed free from extinction.


I laughed so hard at this conversation I almost cried :lol:


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