Are sensitive men well received by women?

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I am conscious about the fact that I am a pretty sensitive man. I have a number of anxieties which make me feel unconfident in many areas of my life. This is the reason I haven't been in a real relationship yet and now I'm 21, I'm starting to think I should be getting out and meeting girls now.
But this is where my sensitivity comes in. Whether that's to the noise around me, what people are saying or what people think of me. At the moment I am stuck in a comfort zone and follow strict rituals I find it hard to be outside where it can be unpredictable.

I've been told plenty of times with my brief encounters with girls that I'm sweet or even kind, but they either had boyfriends or I had no idea how I'd go about trying to get a girlfriend. I do feel a very romantic person inside and always have been, but this has been elevated because of my sensitivity and has got in the way of practical attributes other men my age may have developed like having a good job or attributes which could make the woman interested in him. I dream a lot about love, but I follow my interests religiously, it would be hard to do what I do less. I do have a music talent which I don't show anyone, because I'm sensitive about it and nervous in front of others.

Can sensitivity get to a point where its not good for a man and do women generally like this attribute?

Your sensitivity is fine if it's in the form of empathy to be able to understand what others are going through but your lack of confidence and nervousness about what others might think of you is a gigantic woman-repellent.

I agree with Ban-Dodger. In most cases it isn't the sensitivity that isn't appealing, it is other behaviours. Someone could think that you make a good friend because of your sensitivity, but not a good bf/gf if other personality traits are not appealing for a relationship.

Lack of confidence can make a person behave very jealously. Or just behave awkwardly. It's hard when you're young because not a lot of people have experience with people who have mental health disorders.

If you have musical talent work on that. If you start to feel more confident you could make a video (that doesn't show your whole body if you are nervous about feeling exposed, and post on YouTube. If people like it then it could help increase your confidence. Then you might be able to increase your level of exposure, and eventually maybe even perform IRL.

The internet is so nice for people who have issues with confidence, or social skills. I learned so much just from using Facebook.

Sensativity is good, if you are referring to the ability to relate to others, and feel compassion for them. It's also good, when being romantic with the ladies. Yes, a lot of us like the sensitive, musical, shy, quiet types. Now, with that been said, I will answer your question with a few questions of my own. You said that you invest a lot of time in your special interests, and couldn't see putting less time into them. How much time is a lot of time? And, how much time do you plan on devoting to you lady? These are questions you must ask yourself before some of these can truly be answered. I don't think that sensitivity is the issue here, but the time you are willing to devote to any relationship you might find, and the confidence you need in yourself, to do so, is what is going to stand in your way, and will take some work. Little by little, each area can be worked on, until you feel more confident. My BF is a shy, quiet and sensitive guy, but he is also the type who likes to be around people, as long as it's not too crowded and crazy, I think. Maybe start out slowly.

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Sensitivity is great and a part of who you are. I would say that by your own account you're going to have to go out of your comfort zone a little to find and maintain a relationship though.

http://www.israel21c.org/women-really-d ... udy-finds/

It's funny how these studies always show the opposite of what it is told.

It can be hard to meet people and form relationships if you do not leave the house or put your interests down long enough to start forming relationships. I think that would be more problematic than being a sensitive romantic type. The girlfriends I have had eventually broke up with me because I was not a sensitive, romantic type. They did not care if I preferred to stay in or whatever, it was my lack of emotional sweetness/availability/sensitivity that did me in. Some women clearly value those things in their partners. Sure there will be some who do not, different people like different things and all...

^ Israel is a direct offshoot of the Western civilization.

I'm certain you prefer wikipedia definitions:

The first official use of the term "Middle East" by the United States government was in the 1957 Eisenhower Doctrine, which pertained to the Suez Crisis. Secretary of State John Foster Dulles defined the Middle East as "the area lying between and including Libya on the west and Pakistan on the east, Syria and Iraq on the North and the Arabian peninsula to the south, plus the Sudan and Ethiopia."[16] In 1958, the State Department explained that the terms "Near East" and "Middle East" were interchangeable, and defined the region as including only Egypt, Syria, Israel, Lebanon, Jordan, Iraq, Saudi Arabia, Kuwait, Bahrain, and Qatar.