Dancefloor Flirting?

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I was thinking outloud in the IRC chatroom and was hit with a memory that reminded of an old question. Here I go.

Here's the situation. Homecoming dance. Music is standard highschool crap. Rap with 10-20 minute bits of techno thrown in. I was hanging around some friends. All female and a guy who was dating one of them, only people I knew there. We would, most of the time, walk around or be at our table talking. I had a huge crush on one of them. It was a new crush, so it was really obvious I liked her. It takes me a while to start acting like I don't really like someone. Anyways, I just sat next to her every chance I got, etc. While the techno music was playing, we'd go and dance in a circle-like thingy. They're very shy usually, so they didn't dance with other guys. I "danced", or whatever you might want to call it. There's currently no word for what I did. Anyways, I always danced near the girl I had a crush on (#1). But, there was someone else in the group (#2) who kept dancing backwards into me. The circle knid of rotated, I really don't know, I was dancing more outside of it, than in. Anyways, she'd (#2) start dancing backwards. I don't knew if this was by accident, or if she knew I was behind her. I danced in a different direction to avoid bumping into her... Last time I danced that kind of dance parts started to move that I had no intention of using. You get what I'm saying. The question is (I never bothered asking anyone else), was she (#2) flirting with me? The other girl (#1) would sometimes walk away during the conversations (again, it was obvious I liked her, I could have been annoying), but that's kind of unrelated. OK. Have fun.

You sir, have just experienced a grind.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.p ... =grind&r=f

Come on, thats not dancing- You've gotta kick it MC Hammer style! SHIMMY!

Actually, I avoided grinding. Didn't know it was called that, though.

ahhh. . . .DAM*IT thats what she wanted with me. . .oooooohhhhhh!! !!

::Certain dance experiences suddenly make more sense now, although I am probably never going to another dance for my life::

LOl, I had a friend of a friend showing me the grind when we were both drunk at a club downtown. Its not that I have anything against it, I just wouldn't have the guts to try it on a girl I didn't know or who hadn't made a direct invite.

you guys need to do some break dancing. grinding is for people who don't know how to dance (or mate).

If you want to give some non-dance related advice, here's some other threads about myself I've started:

http://www.wrongplanet.net/modules.php?name=Forums&file=viewtopic&t=2349
http://www.wrongplanet.net/modules.php?name=Forums&file=viewtopic&t=2667
http://www.wrongplanet.net/modules.php?name=Forums&file=viewtopic&t=2799

The problem is, if you go to a meat market club, most of the time they'll laugh at you and look like your an idiot if you do know how to dance (ie not just grinding or doing some slow half-fast effort).

For instance I used to be a big-time raver kid and I'm real good at liquid (that hand-motion we do or with light sticks). If people see that or breakdancing it isn't suiting the real purpose of the club - dumb shmucks getting a girl drunk and taking her home - hence you get laughed at. Thats why I won't even go to a club unless its a special event with some major jungle headliner (sometimes trance or techno) - frustration of purpose; I'm there to dance and have a good time, I don't wanna feel uncomfortable because I'm not doign everything *just like everyone else*.

I have a secret weapon. The "I'm too cool to dance" dance. Unfortunately its kind of hard to describe in text, so it will have to remain a secret.

Take some dance classes, man.

It seems that you're having difficulty with what NTs call "feeling the beat". It's more like following the beat, actually.

I used to experience the same things, but learning some "traditional" dances helped me beyond all belief. Salsa and West Coast Swing work the best, since their rhythm is similar to that of techno music. This is especially true with West Coast Swing.

Another thing I noticed is that you've had some bad experiences with dancing. Dance classes with help change that. The people in the class I go to are very nice and non-judgmental. One word of advice: pick a dance class outside your school district, at least 20 minutes away from where you live. You wouldn't want a bunch of NTs from school making fun of you, or worse, stalking you in front of the dance school.