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06 Apr 2017, 9:49 pm

If you were on a dating site and someone kept revisiting your profile every few days would it make you uncomfortable?

I sometimes have a tendency to do this when I see someone who I might like or if their profile seems really complex.



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06 Apr 2017, 10:12 pm

I wouldn't find that creepy. I would want that person to say Hi, though.



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07 Apr 2017, 1:17 am

It's creepy if you don't say hi.



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07 Apr 2017, 6:09 am

No, I wouldn't mind at all.


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07 Apr 2017, 9:00 am

In my okcupid I wrote this:

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You should message me if ...

Let's be honest... if you find me attractive and compatible. Otherwise don't waste my time please.

NOTE: I may appear visiting your profile several times within the same week but that doesn't mean I am in love with you or something - so don't assume funny things- I simply have a bad memory for faces, so I often forget which profiles I clicked before.



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07 Apr 2017, 10:39 am

slw1990 wrote:
If you were on a dating site and someone kept revisiting your profile every few days would it make you uncomfortable?

I sometimes have a tendency to do this when I see someone who I might like or if their profile seems really complex.


It's something that I have a tendency to do. If someone does it to me, then I'll send them a message. Generally speaking, you want to know if someone's visiting your profile frequently because that's an indication of interest but if it's something you're worried about, you can also choose to browse invisible (though unless you're an A-list member, that means that you can't see who's visiting you either).



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07 Apr 2017, 2:10 pm

I would say avoid it unless you can use invisible or undercover browsing. Most times though you can't see visitors either if you use those options but at the very least you won't look like a stalker.


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07 Apr 2017, 8:13 pm

A little strange but not creepy. The profile is there for people on the site to look at as much as they want and maybe they're just shy or still deciding.

Creepy is more like, digging through social media to find a Steam or in-game name I mentioned not to them and sending me dozens of messages while I play with friends.



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07 Apr 2017, 8:47 pm

One of the members who I was viewing disappeared a couple of days after I viewed them so I think I may have made them uncomfortable.



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11 Apr 2017, 10:13 pm

Jono wrote:
slw1990 wrote:
If you were on a dating site and someone kept revisiting your profile every few days would it make you uncomfortable?

I sometimes have a tendency to do this when I see someone who I might like or if their profile seems really complex.


It's something that I have a tendency to do. If someone does it to me, then I'll send them a message. Generally speaking, you want to know if someone's visiting your profile frequently because that's an indication of interest but if it's something you're worried about, you can also choose to browse invisible (though unless you're an A-list member, that means that you can't see who's visiting you either).


Do a lot of women do this to you and can they see you view them?



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12 Apr 2017, 1:10 am

So the final conclusion for this thread: Stop doing it, and message the guy instead.



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12 Apr 2017, 5:32 am

It's window shopping.


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12 Apr 2017, 10:27 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
So the final conclusion for this thread: Stop doing it, and message the guy instead.


I don't know about sending them a message. I sent one a few days ago (I rarely send messages) and I think I may have made the guy I sent it to uncomfortable.



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13 Apr 2017, 4:04 am

If you don't say Hi, how will you meet anyone?

I doubt that the guy found you creepy.

I'm thinking he took himself off the site because he met somebody.



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13 Apr 2017, 4:54 am

slw1990 wrote:
Jono wrote:
slw1990 wrote:
If you were on a dating site and someone kept revisiting your profile every few days would it make you uncomfortable?

I sometimes have a tendency to do this when I see someone who I might like or if their profile seems really complex.


It's something that I have a tendency to do. If someone does it to me, then I'll send them a message. Generally speaking, you want to know if someone's visiting your profile frequently because that's an indication of interest but if it's something you're worried about, you can also choose to browse invisible (though unless you're an A-list member, that means that you can't see who's visiting you either).


Do a lot of women do this to you and can they see you view them?


Not a lot but anyone can check who visited their profile by clicking on the "visitors" tab.



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13 Apr 2017, 4:57 am

slw1990 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
So the final conclusion for this thread: Stop doing it, and message the guy instead.


I don't know about sending them a message. I sent one a few days ago (I rarely send messages) and I think I may have made the guy I sent it to uncomfortable.


I doubt that you have, if he deleted his profile it's mostly likely that he either found someone else on the site or gave up but there's no reason to think that you made him uncomfortable by sending him a message. People can either choose to reply to you or not.