when to make a move?

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When do y'all find it appropriate to tell someone that you like him/her?

Like say this person is going through a difficult situation, would it be best to wait or to say something about my feelings? I am scared that he may not feel the same way, and I don't want to lose a friend that I have made...

I would show support during this difficult situation and when it's over, tell him your feelings.
He'll grow attached to you and 'discover' what you (can) mean to him.

yeah...hahaha...I totally had a duh moment just now. That's excellent advice. Thanks!

It would also depend on the situation, but Adrian is right. Support is always a good thing. If you truely have feelings for this person, then it is always a good thing to reveal it to him. I had feelings for a couple of girls back in high school, but never had the guts to spill it. Now, they have moved on to different colleges and none attend the one that I am at. But always remember that a "true" relationship is usually built slowly.

If you feel comfortable with it, and you feel he might be comfortable, just go ahead and tell him.

Tim

i agree except i would say show him not tell him

Yes yes...all good advice. I feel though that I do not have the courage to tell him or show him though.

Just tell him.

It took me 3 me three months to ask out a girl that I liked. the reason being that I wanted to make sure that it was a right thing to do. I wanted to make sure that I wasn't rushing into things. we talked about it, and she said I was mature for how I did it. however she said no, but not no. in other words saying that the time I asked her, was too close to summer, but she wanted to get to know me better as well. so we'll see what happens next semester.

raylynn... you are so not alone in this dilemma. knowing what should be done and having the guts to do it are two of the most different things this world has to offer.

It's hardest for US to decipher when and when not to do this.

Let our feelings be known? That's always such a special moment. That's why it's most difficult for me to tell someone I love them. As is said, "The shallow brook babbles much," and I am a very quiet stream. So I had kept my feelings to myself, even through perfect opportunities, and a few intimate encounters. She made it known that we were like twins, very close, fit together like two cogs. I like to think she's tailor fitted to me.

But I waited all too long. Don't wait until you're like her/his brother/sister. You being a female, I would think that you have the proper leverage to keep a guy interested indefinitely and not have to worry so much about timing.

You know, that mystique and the curviness.

best to regret making the move than not making it.
It's a cliche, i know

I'm so torn by this, as sometimes
I wonder if the moves (all of which
have failed) that I made damaged
my chances. Now and then, one
can be certain that there is no
chance without - but desperation
makes one fail.

failure is good

War is peace.