I have a girlfriend now...I think.

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But she's not staying in the country (She' ll move after 10 months) so it's destined to be temporary; I have told her let's remain bed partners and not to go into further commitments, but she wants us to be labeled bf/gf instead.

What's the point of this label if she 's aware that it's all temporary?

10 months is a lot of time – maybe if your relationship get too serious meanwhile she can even change her mind about moving or plan to return sooner. or maybe she just want to enjoy 10 months as a girlfriend.

She almost worships me; like she sees me as a flawless being- how wrong she is.

It's nice but bit suffocating.

and how you feel about her? it's seem that you don't have the same level of feelings, is she at least aware of it?

Best wishes comrade

...help me...

If I were in your shoes, I'd want to think there'd be a possibility of her not moving. Otherwise, developing a relationship is pretty useless with no prospects of a future together.

Not that most relationships last until death anyway, but it sounds like she wants some kind of exclusivity that she can't actually commit to.

While I care for her; I have not yet developed such strong feelings.

We talked about this imbalance before.

What do you need help with comrade cberg?

I've been pondering the notion that almost anyone I know will have radically different feelings about me than I do toward them; I'm simply weird. That doesn't stop any of us loving each other though.

I'm in something more like one of Boo's earlier, usual anecdotes, though I'm completely stunned by how much someone still cares. It's hard to stop mashing refresh on this board because I don't have much context & I hopefully shouldn't miss anything obvious. We're close & go back a long time but I at least know I need to find lots more time with her eventually. She's simply empress of a tiny minority which spends time with me offline. No more bored & single mental box for me either, even if mine remains justified it's not helpful.

Congrats, Boo!

Don't worry, she'll find your flaws sooner or later

You don't need to plan everything, you know. It's not possible to get away from a certain element of randomness in relationships.

Consider that if you go public, you may have some enthousiastic family members trying to finally marry you off

I am sure won't encourage me to marry this one, she's of a different far culture, bit older than me, single mom and surgically sterile (tubal ligation ).

For another thing, I'm not aware of anything preventing you from getting temporarily married, should that seem like a cool idea I guess.

Long distance and online relationships don't work out to me.

It's not a long distance now nor online - and I am not intending to make it one.

Boo your so damn cynical and now I don't see the reason why. You ever planning on dropping it?

Congratulations, Boo! You did good!

Now...don't blow it! Keep it simple (not stupid).

It's great that you both quite honest with each other.