Am I the other women?

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My co worker who works in different depertment gave me his number.I was intrested so I texted him back .However,a week into getting to know each other* he asked me if I have boyfriend and kids to which I repled no.I returned the question ..he tells me that he has 2 8 month twins and he is working towards being single.I asked him what he meant by that .He proceeded to tell me that they still live together but * not really together* and they are trying to find ways to spilt without having a full impact on the kids because he doesn't want any bs for them.They just grew apart but want to raise good kids. They are not married but have been together for years
I really liked him so I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt since he was upfront with me but now I feel like I might have made the wrong decison.

We have been seeing each other for a month now and he made no reference of him moving out..not sure if has any intentions to do so. He has a 9 to 5 job so during the week we often see each other and have sex in his officer sometimes I go visit him during work hours and we have sex in public places ie secluded areas. We haven't hangout outside work due to conflicting schedules at some point I was sick which prevented us from spending time together. He wants to plan something for us soon.

I feel like I'm the other women even though he reassured me that they are not together.
I would also prefer to date someone who doesn't already have children but I figure it would be harder to find a man who doesn't have baggage at 32 unless I go for much younger.This is situation about him having infants * and still living with baby mama has been bothering me...I thought I could look past it. .I'm starting to fall for him and wanting more ?

Its time to end this if you are becoming attached to him, you both had some fun, maybe you are the other woman or not, but I don't believe that this relationship is serious for him.

this situation seems fishy.

i think it's possible that you are not "the other woman" so much as "the fun woman"...he is likely dealing with a lot of stress due to ~whatever the f**k~ is going on at home and being with you is simple and enjoyable.

however, i can't predict what this relationship means in the long run. if you can ride it out you may find either that he is ready for a more serious commitment, or that he isn't.
for now i think it would be best to ride with caution, though, and try not to get hurt. if you are uncomfortable with the current situation that is grounds for recognition. if he is eager to work with you too on what is happening with his partner and kids, then that could be indication that he sees more of a future with you. if he is unable to put your feelings at ease, maybe it is not a good time to be with this fellow.

Sounds like you may be the other woman, and these relationships rarely workout. Only thing for you to do is up the communication and keep your eyes open and your head up.

I would be very leary of everything you posted, something feels off because it probably is.

There is nothing complicated about answering your dilemma OP.
Speak to his baby mama. If there is any difficulty in accomplishing this then your relationship is
dubious at best. Continue at your own risk; failure to open your eyes and discover the truth is your responsibility unless you do not wish to know it.

Sex in office.... sex in public.

I thought this happens in porn only.

You should film that.

I am curious, is it done during lunch break or in overtime?

^ not at all.
Some of us like al fresco.

To the OP: You are having sex with a 'married' man. Of course you are the 'other woman'.

Maybe you should ask his partner her opinion on the matter.

Is there any other aspect to your relationship with this man other than sex?

Chronos, the only interesting thing I find interesting in this thread is the sex in office / public sex part.

LeaPoufyPony, does his office have normal walls, or is it all glasses with shutter curtains? Were there staff in the next room?

This all sounds very secret and strange. Is there a relationship going on, or is it just sex?

During work life, I've run into a lot of desperate toddler fathers who feel exhausted and miserable, now that the wife only has time and energy for the kids. The stupidest of them act like offended little boys and will basically flirt with anything that moves. Look out for the phrase 'my wife doesn't understand me'.

Men like that need to be avoided at all cost. They're selfish and entitled, and you just don't want their baggage.

I think you should have been a lot more catious about getting involved with a guy from work, no less!

Who knows, maybe the guy is telling the truth, but honestly, it doesn't seem like it.