Could a guy (or girl) please help me out here?

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So I've been talking to this guy through IG for a few months (he's got a very popular IG so I hid any identifers) and almost out of the blue he tells me this.

I'm having a hard time interpreting what I should do and what exactly he's telling me he wants.

Yes, I'm intelligent but, like most here, even social cues are hard to detect most of the time.... Thanks in advance Here are the screenshots:

Honestly, it seems like he just learned something genuinely new and useful about interacting with you as a person.

He probably feels a little uncomfortable with the bluntness that you're exhibiting, but not turned off at all whatsoever. He's aware that you want real, meaty, juicy conversation with depth and profundity and he wasn't made privy of that before hand.

I get a sense that he stumbled upon one of your pet peeves by accident and he too is unsure of how to proceed.

I dunno, I do get the feeling he's into you on some level though.

'The grey'? Oh my goodness, forgive my ignorance, I've never heard that term before, what does it mean?

I don't like his attitude. It seems very condescending towards you, and reeks of a big ego. I'd be careful with him if I were you.

Welp I was totally off then. He's kind of being an ass bag. LOL

You also forgot to say what IG stands for. This acronym thing must come to an end...

I can smell the ego, but it does seem like he is been bluntly honest.

I'd treat with him care, and make sure he does not try and put you down.

It sounds like he just insinuated your conversation was mindless blathering and suggested you were not using your intelligence. apologies but he sounds like a asshat to me, but then again i dont know him

He's basically saying you're an airhead, or rather that you are intentionally sounding like an airhead (despite your intelligence.) Either way, he sounds like an arrogant condescending jackass. He is criticising you for doing what everyone does--for making small talk with people. Usually if you only talk about deep and thoughtful topics people get annoyed with you for being so "heavy" all the time, so you make an effort to be normal and talk about the weather and other non-substantial things like we're told we're supposed to, and still this guy complains. He just sounds like a jerk-wad who's trying to act superior. If he had a problem with your conversational abilities, he could have told you in a way that wasn't so rude and condescending.

Also, mentioning his mother in such a negative way (like all she spews at him is inane BS) and comparing you to her in that passive aggressive way is another red flag. This guy might have mommy issues and issues with women (particularly intelligent women) in general.

I would block this dude, just to keep myself from talking to him again. What an arse! Putting you down for not entertaining him enough with your thoughts? Really? And the reference to his mom just reeks of disdain.

There are plenty of fish in the instagram sea. Go find someone with manners and a sincere heart.