Wasn't His Type???

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This happened last year and I'm over it now, but I can't seem to really figure out what this guy meant by this. There was this guy who was a grade above me and I was kinda interested in him. Eventually, I did come out to directly tell him how I felt. He told me that I was super hot and all but it was too late because he was interested in someone else and I "wasn't his type." Turned out he liked this tiny girl who looked about 10 and has a black tooth.

I've never had much luck in person with anyone really but all of my online friends are absolutely astounded at the possiblity that someone would reject me???

I've had this issue with plenty of other people as well. I often get rejected for school dances and the like as for some reason no one in this town finds me even slightly attractive, however, online it seems I'm incredibly desirable. What's up with that????

Hmmm... I have no idea. More info would help.

My guess is his "type" is easy sex. Tiny girl who looks 10 and has a rotten tooth? That tells me possibly he's more into girls, like, little kids. People like that end up as registered sex offenders if they don't get their paraphilia under control.

Another possibility is her rotten teeth is a sign of a drug addiction. Methheads are prone to tooth decay. That would also explain why she's so tiny. So, basically, his "type" is codependents with addictive personalities that he can control/manipulate for sex. Give it time and he'll probably break up with her once he gets bored with her. You'll get your chance assuming you really want to be with this guy.

Like I said, all of this is ENTIRELY speculation and based only on things I've seen before. It's just as likely I'm completely off-base, so I hope maybe you can help me fill in the missing puzzle pieces.

It's possible he's into petite women who come across as younger. People like to treat attraction to child characteristics (which in its extreme form is classified as pedophilia) as though it's necessarily a bad thing. The way our society is right now it's treated as such, because the mainstream hasn't found a place for that aesthetic. On the other hand, there is a lot to like about people who don't see the need to "act mature", and especially don't feel the need to LOOK it.

You are probably just that, not his type. Due to a combination of possibly looking too developed (which, unfortunately, there isn't much you can do about), or any number of other things. How does this girl ACT whom he likes? If she's sweet and childlike in personality, maybe you can summon your personal innocent inner child and attract him. Maybe being a girl who is "not normal" herself (given the way her teeth look), he feels she will be more accepting of his own non-normality.

I meet women sometimes who are "hot", yet I feel they are "too normal" and are looking for a guy who fits in and acts more grown up than I would be truly happy being. There's something refreshing about a girl who seems to have the openness and social simplicity of a 10-year-old. I feel what her and I could have is so much more "real" than something I could have with a girl who wears lots of makeup, tries real hard to fit in, etc.

I suppose it's likely a mixture of both. It's mostly just annoying as this sort of thing happens with nearly anyone I'm interested in. The only kind of men I can really seem to attract are creepy elderly men and people who don't live anywhere near me (and even then, still no where near my age). It's awfully confusing. :/

Guys also have the right to reject.

Guys also may love somone for personality.

These are things that you girls should start to accept, because many of you are brainwashed bu society to the idea that guys always accept advances and always after looks. This is wrong.

I get what you mean, but even the super-shallow guys who hit on nearly every girl they see won't give me a second glance. It's not like I run around obsessing over any guy who talks to me either. In all honesty I only expressed interest because it seemed like maybe he had some too. Maybe there's something wrong with me?

If you have autism there's a high likely hood that you have physical quirks/posture/presentation that don't match the persona you display online.

I'm sure there's nothing "wrong" with you, in the sense that you're a bad person or anything. I know it's easy to think people are interested when they aren't--that happens to me with girls all the time.

If you don't mind me asking, are you (aside from whatever mannerisms you might have due to being on the spectrum) "typical-looking", in other words of rather average height and weight, a face that looks roughly your actual age or younger, etc.?

I find that many people often confuse me for being a high school senior or college freshman (I'm actually a high school sophomore), but I must definitely look very "typical" because out of the handful of people I've revealed my AS to, every last one found it to be a huge surprise initially.

There's no reason why looking unusual would necessarily prompt someone to believe you're on the spectrum. That suspicion is more likely to be prompted by mannerisms or unusual interests. There DOES seem to be a slight tendency for people with AS to be either unusually high or low in weight for their height, and to have slightly unusual facial features, but I would never assume that someone with any of those traits is likely to be on the spectrum based on that alone.

Unfortunately, I live in a rather small, conservative town where even the most liberal of people believe many ridiculous stereotypes, especially about those on the spectrum because we have a small but more prominent population of people who are lower-functioning. I'm generally seen as just a bit odd and a little out of place because I don't need an aide watching my every move.