Weird because I'm a "late bloomer"

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So I am almost 18 and I've never so much as kissed someone.
I grew up very sheltered (homeschooled) and through most of highschool I have been too busy, overwhelmed, or focused to really care about engaging romantically with anyone (also, I don't really like being touched much anyway). I never thought much of it until a couple nights ago when I was chatting with a guy I was thinking about dating eventually and he asked how far I had gotten with someone. When I answered him honestly, he seemed really freaked out, sayinging it was a lot of pressure on him and that it would be a difficult thing to work around. I was generally really embarrassed and I am starting to question whether I should have told the truth at all. Furthermore, I don't know if I should continue with this guy if he thinks its such a big deal (I don't really think its a big deal).

What I'm wondering is if I am weirdly behind other people with aspergers? Am I really as much of a freak as this interaction made me feel? Also, what should I do about this guy?

Thanks everyone!

I'd of been honest as well. sometimes a conservation like that wouldn't come up straight away, maybe after they've got to know you and like your personality etc, a bit more which might have changed or subdued that reaction.

I wouldn't say your massively behind at your age either just because you haven't had a high-school relationship. I do think the majority of people would have at least kissed by then but don't worry about it I hadn't at your age either
As for people with Aspergers i don't know, you see posts on here of people much older with the same lack of experience.

Unless that guy comeback and says he overacted and hes sorry and he seems genuine just forget about him. "difficult thing to work around" It's not difficult in the slightest to work around. Theirs going to be lots of nice guys who wont say anything like that and wont mind in the slightest you might even find one in the same boat.

You have nothing to worry about your not some freak, I'm sure your a lovely girl who unfortunate the first guy you told seems a little bit of a jerk from his reaction. If you want next time pretend you've snogged/kissed somebody if you end up kissing your date and its a bad kiss then never mind just google some tips. But like honesty myself but keep your chin up your not a freak

If this guy can't adapt to your so-called inexperience, he's not worth it.

Tell him you're waiting for the right person. Tell him you would feel disgusted if you kissed the wrong person.

That is the truth. I kissed the wrong person a few times--and it was disgusting. It was nice when I kissed the right person, though.

You're not a freak and he's just a complete jerk. Don't waste your time on somebody like that.

You're definitely not a freak, just do what you're comfortable with. He shouldn't have treated it like it's a problem to be fixed.

Almost 18 is still really young. Most guys I don't think will care too much about inexperience especially at that age.

Have to second Jacoby on this one.

Don't rush. Everything will be fine and you will be loved.