Is it worth it?

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alright im a little bit confused right now, and maybe i could get some opinions:

I talk to a girl every day at school I can be myself and she totally understands why and who I am its cute to her..... but actually the problem comes with two things:

1. she is already dating someone.....

2. she is a bisexual ( a little biased towards woman)

so am I screwed or what? Should I even try?

That means the ball's in her court. If she's interested enough, she'll act. If not, she won't. Trying to encourage her, bad idea. Forcing anything usually ends in disaster.



That just means you have more competition. Doesn't mean you have no chance. The first point will be more significant.

Should you dwell on this? No. "Waiting" around for her, or whatever you want to call it, takes away any other possibilities that could otherwise arise. Been there, done that, it sucks if it turns out that you're just wasting time. She may just think you're fun to be around, that doesn't mean she's necessarily interested. She could be, but there's no guarantees. (There rarely are....)

I'd say stick with it, but don't ignore other things that might come up.

Last edited by shadexiii on 26 May 2007, 10:56 pm, edited 2 times in total.

Is she dating a male or a female? Makes a big difference,
because you might be able to win them both over in the
latter case (well, maybe in the former too, but I just don't
naturally think that way).

alright a little more to say is it worth it too wait around..... I've tried to establish a relationship before but nothing "clicked" with that other person, here it does, its actually pretty miraculous. My whole thing is should I try to give it a go if/when her relationship ends. I mean her friedship is something I can actually hold most friendships die out after a while for me making things a little difficult. Her parents dont like the idea of this happening so it could end at any time, or it could go on forever. Either way is fine for me but in other people's opinion should I wait for that time to come, or move on keeping the friendship and try with someone else?

she is dating a woman..... a little bit more biased towards them shes told me

Well, and this is something I've never been able to handle well (if only I could take my own advice!) but if you are single, you are single. Period. You don't have to actively look for other relationships, but don't ignore any other possibilities for the possibility of her, at least while she's still in a relationship. Nothing may come up. Something great could come up. If you "wait," then you'll never know what else might have been.

If she does get out of the relationship, don't come swooping in like a vulture. Sure, it may work, but it also has the likelihood (dare I say tendency after my own limited experience?) of going bad, of starting for the wrong reasons and thus ending rather quickly. Don't do nothing, but again, don't be too determined, can't think of the right word...well, I've had that kind of action called desperate before. (Believe it or not, desperate, perceived or real, is apparently not attractive.)

If she said she was more biased, that might be some kind of hint she's trying to give you. It might just be a statement of fact. May mean a lot, may mean nothing. (That was helpful, right? )

Ah hell, just follow your heart, and end up
miserable. It's all any of us manage.

I really hope that was sarcastic....

If it was *smirks*

I'm trying to be optimistic, but this feels no different than what my parents tried to do. "Learn from my mistakes" rarely if ever works.


If only...

Tator, I hope you will read shadexiii's advice carefully and think about it. There's a lot of wisdom in what he wrote.

I been dissed!

I'm not bold enough for that.

And what are you bold enough for?




Because, gods know, I'm not.

You're really on a streak with this kind of thing tonight.

You remind me of this guy I met while donating blood one time. Witty... and a little disconcerting.

Yeah, I'm trying to get some practice in.

Too bad I can't do it in reality though.
At least not with someone I'm interested
in.

So much blood around can do that.