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01 Jul 2017, 6:34 pm

Is there a dating website where you can meet or search for people with autism?


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01 Jul 2017, 9:14 pm

that I don't know. my sister keeps telling me to go on match.com. problem is online profiles feel like dating resumes. and I already have a complex about resumes...

To be honest I am not super confident in the concept of aspie dating sites just because Aspergers tends to disproportionately occur more in males rather than female , and the gender disparity would break a site like that.



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03 Jul 2017, 12:14 pm

Most regular dating sites have plenty of (lightly) autistic people on them, and they reveal themselves on their profiles.
Look for some clues like "i dislike mainstream music", "i enjoy time alone" and several other such sentences.



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03 Jul 2017, 1:47 pm

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Most regular dating sites have plenty of (lightly) autistic people on them, and they reveal themselves on their profiles.
Look for some clues like "i dislike mainstream music", "i enjoy time alone" and several other such sentences.

This'll probably be one of the better ways to "find" others on the spectrum through a dating site. If I was using one I definitely would not put that I have AS on the profile.

Things are already tough for guys on dating sites and giving people one more (very understandable) reason to just disregard and move on would not be good for finding someone. It wouldn't faze me if I saw that someone revealed they were autistic on their profile but plenty of people would see that as a red flag. Heck, just go search for anything on reddit or other sites about online dating and autism; or just dating and autism for that matter. Loads of people view it in a similar vein to someone mentioning they deal with clinical depression on a profile.


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03 Jul 2017, 2:44 pm

After lots of research along with trial and error, I found a website that is actually for people on the spectrum and isn't fake! I have had contact with a lot of people and it has been a very fun experience. Also, in the help section it tells you specifically how to make your profile and I found that most people use this format lol. Ok, here is the site,

https://www.aspieology.com/

If you want to be friends on there send me a handshake and a message that you read this on wrong planet. It's a friendship + dating site just so you know.
https://www.aspieology.com/profile/CivilS4m
is my profile. See you there! Oh, should I post this as a separate post somewhere in hopes it gets stickied for all of us to use?


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04 Jul 2017, 3:36 am

You need to find a jov first and get your sh!t togother.

Otherwise, your sad story with your ex will repeat.



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04 Jul 2017, 1:32 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
You need to find a jov first and get your sh!t togother.

Otherwise, your sad story with your ex will repeat.


There is no need for that. I don't know why you felt the need to personally attack me but I'm sorry you felt that way. I do have my stuff together, I work out every day, I volunteer my time to the community, I read, write, play the Uke, and spend time with friends. I don't need a job, as I have a federal pension for working for the federal government and I live very comfortably off it. I really hope you sort things out with these negative feelings you have and how you feel the need to attack someone on Wrong Planet. Best of luck man.


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04 Jul 2017, 1:44 pm

Yeah, personal attacks are not tolerated.


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04 Jul 2017, 3:21 pm

CivilSam wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
You need to find a jov first and get your sh!t togother.

Otherwise, your sad story with your ex will repeat.


There is no need for that. I don't know why you felt the need to personally attack me but I'm sorry you felt that way. I do have my stuff together, I work out every day, I volunteer my time to the community, I read, write, play the Uke, and spend time with friends. I don't need a job, as I have a federal pension for working for the federal government and I live very comfortably off it. I really hope you sort things out with these negative feelings you have and how you feel the need to attack someone on Wrong Planet. Best of luck man.



I don't know why you took it as personal attack; I was simply not sugar coating: it was obvious in the other thread why your ex's family were pushing her to leave you - it will happen again if you change nothing.
Even *you* highly suspected that it was the case. Trust your instinct.

All what I was saying that your first priority should be finding a job or to start some business.
I dunno how much your pension payments is; if it's better than a job then good for you; if it's thr case then I was mistaken.

But I am not sure how convincing this federal pension at your very young age would sound to most of your dates - but my gut feeling says that most would find it very weird. Also they may think you're lazy.



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04 Jul 2017, 3:58 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
CivilSam wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
You need to find a jov first and get your sh!t togother.

Otherwise, your sad story with your ex will repeat.


There is no need for that. I don't know why you felt the need to personally attack me but I'm sorry you felt that way. I do have my stuff together, I work out every day, I volunteer my time to the community, I read, write, play the Uke, and spend time with friends. I don't need a job, as I have a federal pension for working for the federal government and I live very comfortably off it. I really hope you sort things out with these negative feelings you have and how you feel the need to attack someone on Wrong Planet. Best of luck man.



I don't know why you took it as personal attack; I was simply not sugar coating: it was obvious in the other thread why your ex's family were pushing her to leave you - it will happen again if you change nothing.
Even *you* highly suspected that it was the case. Trust your instinct.

All what I was saying that your first priority should be finding a job or to start some business.
I dunno how much your pension payments is; if it's better than a job then good for you; if it's thr case then I was mistaken.

But I am not sure how convincing this federal pension at your very young age would sound to most of your dates - but my gut feeling says that most would find it very weird. Also they may think you're lazy.


Why are you giving me advice for something you don't really know a lot about (my disabilities for example) and telling me to get a job when this post is about autistic dating sites? :roll:
Edit: Nevermind, problem solved.


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04 Jul 2017, 4:14 pm

CivilSam wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
CivilSam wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
You need to find a jov first and get your sh!t togother.

Otherwise, your sad story with your ex will repeat.


There is no need for that. I don't know why you felt the need to personally attack me but I'm sorry you felt that way. I do have my stuff together, I work out every day, I volunteer my time to the community, I read, write, play the Uke, and spend time with friends. I don't need a job, as I have a federal pension for working for the federal government and I live very comfortably off it. I really hope you sort things out with these negative feelings you have and how you feel the need to attack someone on Wrong Planet. Best of luck man.



I don't know why you took it as personal attack; I was simply not sugar coating: it was obvious in the other thread why your ex's family were pushing her to leave you - it will happen again if you change nothing.
Even *you* highly suspected that it was the case. Trust your instinct.

All what I was saying that your first priority should be finding a job or to start some business.
I dunno how much your pension payments is; if it's better than a job then good for you; if it's thr case then I was mistaken.

But I am not sure how convincing this federal pension at your very young age would sound to most of your dates - but my gut feeling says that most would find it very weird. Also they may think you're lazy.


Why are you giving me advice for something you don't really know a lot about (my disabilities for example) and telling me to get a job when this post is about autistic dating sites? :roll:
Edit: Nevermind, problem solved.


Ok good luck then.

Which problem was solved?



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05 Jul 2017, 2:54 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
You need to find a job first and get your sh!t togother.

Otherwise, your sad story with your ex will repeat.


alex wrote:
personal attacks are not tolerated.


Yes Boo, you should know better than that. 8O

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I don't need a job, as I have a federal pension for working for the federal government and I live very comfortably off it.

Not sure what that has to do with anything related to online dating though and, AspieDating would be I suppose, where autistics choose to find their first date.
I had picked up on which was totally crass to me, and I forget the name of it..created by someone though with apparently lots of relationship experience. NOT.

https://www.aspieology.com/ Try that. Some fees are almost always non-refundable..so I wouldn't bother.



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05 Jul 2017, 3:34 pm

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I don't need a job, as I have a federal pension for working for the federal government and I live very comfortably off it.

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Not sure what that has to do with anything related to online dating though and, AspieDating would be I suppose, where autistics choose to find their first date.

I don't know lots of people on here are telling me I need a job even though I worked full time since I was 18 and am retired under a very nice federal pension (officially retired). I do lots of volunteer work at a local soup kitchen because I like to give back to the community and I thought that was enough for a job but I guess not? I can get a part time job if I have to though as I can work private sector.


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05 Jul 2017, 5:05 pm

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I don't know lots of people on here are telling me I need a job even though I worked full time since I was 18 and am retired under a very nice federal pension (officially retired). I do lots of volunteer work at a local soup kitchen because I like to give back to the community and I thought that was enough for a job but I guess not? I can get a part time job if I have to though as I can work private sector.


I think given the chaos and hopelessness most of us have felt on dating sites, its begun to ebb and wane on others who've had even less practice and experience doing it.

There was a quiz on that link to Aspieology https://www.quiz-maker.com/QVKTX03# which I've tried and it came up with..

Thanks for taking the Type Quiz!
By Aspieology®
 
See your results below...
Your type: Starfish / Rooster (AOSR)
   
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Socially Neutral and Habitually Rigid
 
 
Behavior Preferences
The Starfish/Rooster (AOSR) requires solitude, but they do not necessarily go out of their way to isolate themselves, or avoid opportunities for social interaction. In fact, they have a unique ability to adapt to being alone, or just as easily spending time with family, friends or perhaps out meeting new people. Being socially neutral has the advantage of allowing them to adapt to either isolation, and social situations as needed. They may spend a significant amount of time designing intricate routines, or structuring their daily life in a way that minimizes interruptions or surprises, and maximizes overall comfort. So, while they are able to adapt to social situations quite well, they often prefer adhering to a routine whenever possible.
 
Dating and Romance
The Starfish/Rooster (AOSR) can benefit from their ability to welcome social interaction, although, adhering to a rigid routine, may limit their ability to make new connections that could lead to romance. However, by implementing new routines into their daily life, they may be able to increase the likelihood of meeting new people. For example, they could start visiting a local coffee shop once each week, and get to know the staff. This social exposure could allow them to see and be seen, while significantly increasing the chances of meeting new people, and practicing social skills. 


Apparently, I need to be seen to be seen, well, I've given the whole photo exposure thing a go, but its getting the right response from the right person and most possibly, at the right time.. but the one thing i do know is, I don't have to please anybody. Clearly there are so many non Clark Kents out there, and more like Jokers, that I am never quite certain, who's going to wear the mask next.

Plus not everyone needs a relationship, just some low key first time romance, otherwise, all thats gonna be left is a fake taxi with punctured tyres. I've volunteered publicly in a Voluntary Shelter cleaning, so, are you saying you are trying to date a younger woman who would like to help you find some home help with your retired benefits?
Why don't you find someone your own fed age? Your profile to me sounds very strange anyway. If you altered your age, unless you've retired from the forces thats different. But, if not..you may need help with accessing the right image. Try to lead by example.



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06 Jul 2017, 1:19 am

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so, are you saying you are trying to date a younger woman who would like to help you find some home help with your retired benefits?
Why don't you find someone your own fed age? Your profile to me sounds very strange anyway. If you altered your age, unless you've retired from the forces thats different. But, if not..you may need help with accessing the right image. Try to lead by example.


What? I'm sorry but I am completely confused about what you are saying. My profile specifically says, "I am retired as a Civil Servant from the federal government and spend a lot of my time helping the community". What does my own "fed age" mean? I mean, I can state it again I guess.

I am a retired Civil Servant from the federal government and spend a lot of my time helping the community.

I am 34, and yes I was retired from the federal government. Ok, so if anyone at all has anything happen to them health wise that makes them unable to work anymore, if you work for the federal government, it's almost like social security. They cannot fire you, but you are retired instead and its almost like social security but you actually get both. This is the only place I've ever run into so many people being confused with someone being retired from the federal government. Did you honestly think I am using a fake picture, am trying to find younger women, and am trying to date a fed person? I'm sorry, I am really confused here and I mean no disrespect, I just need you to clarify I guess.


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06 Jul 2017, 1:31 am

CivilSam wrote:
Empathy wrote:
so, are you saying you are trying to date a younger woman who would like to help you find some home help with your retired benefits?
Why don't you find someone your own fed age? Your profile to me sounds very strange anyway. If you altered your age, unless you've retired from the forces thats different. But, if not..you may need help with accessing the right image. Try to lead by example.


What? I'm sorry but I am completely confused about what you are saying. My profile specifically says, "I am retired as a Civil Servant from the federal government and spend a lot of my time helping the community". What does my own "fed age" mean? I mean, I can state it again I guess.

I am a retired Civil Servant from the federal government and spend a lot of my time helping the community.

I am 34, and yes I was retired from the federal government. Ok, so if anyone at all has anything happen to them health wise that makes them unable to work anymore, if you work for the federal government, it's almost like social security. They cannot fire you, but you are retired instead and its almost like social security but you actually get both. This is the only place I've ever run into so many people being confused with someone being retired from the federal government. Did you honestly think I am using a fake picture, am trying to find younger women, and am trying to date a fed person? I'm sorry, I am really confused here and I mean no disrespect, I just need you to clarify I guess.



Welcome to the nightmares of the online dating; you have just witnessed the tip of the iceberg.

Actually, spend more time on dating sites with the profile of yours, and you will soon realize that you unfairly accused me of attacking you (and my advice was based on the interpretations I have foreseen from women on dating sites).