At what age did you stop thinking of your partners as girls?

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This is for male heterosexuals who have dated. Please be honest. In my case, I would say not before age 30 at best. I certainly thought of my wife (who is a few years younger than I) as a girl when I first met her, in my early thirties.

OTOH it's my impression that my son, who is in his late 20s, has always thought of his fiancee as a woman, even when they first met seven years ago. So it could be a generational thing, or else a great fear of political incorrectness.

Can't really contribute since I've never dated, but I do find this post intriguing. I will say this, though: I generally don't think of women my age as "girls" in any way, and I'm pretty sure I wouldn't consider any partner I may or may not have in the future a "girl" either. I only draw the distinction when it comes to looks - if a girl looks mature, I'll consider them a woman instead of a girl.

If you see a group of women in their prime years, you call them "group of girls" to yourself or the person(s) with you. Even though they are well over 18 years old. I don't know why, but you just think that way. England’s senior women’s football team – World Cup bronze medal winners no less – were frequently referred to as “girls” by pundits and commentators.

Regardless, the term "lads" or "boys" is tossed around. One might argue that male footballers are referred to as “lads” or “the boys”, which is true. But the term "boy" when referring to an adult man is often meant to be abusive when used colloquially. the term "girl" when used to describe an adult woman doesn't carry as much malice or direct intent to hurt.

Guys my own age (40) often say "we're having a lads night out" when they hit the pubs on a friday evening. My sister is 34 years old and often posts on facebook "having a girls night out" etc.

I thought of my two exes as girls but the 1st was 15 & the 2nd was 19. I felt kind of like a parent with them at times cuz I was older & my 1st had a lot of issues. My current girlfriend was 29 when we got together & I was 28 & I think of her as my equal but different & I don't think of myself as a boy.

Not yet.