Dating Advice

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I posted almost 8 months ago about trying to fix a relationship that lasted over a year, but that didn't work out.

Now I'm really ready to try to get back out there, but I'm not sure how to start. The Last one I met at work, but my current job has four people in the building, all males, and that's it. I don't have much of a social circle to lean on for this, I spend time with my family now and then, who are close by, so I'm not lonely, but I really want a life partner to share experiences with and have kids someday.

I'm awful at initiating conversations, due to ASD. Is online dating a good place to start? Any sites in particular? Doing some classic things like a bar sounds terrifying to me with so many people. Should I try seeking out another partner that has ASD? My last relationship had issues related to my ASD, and I really want someone that can work with that, though I try my hardest to be normal. I live alone currently, no furniture, but I plan to move in an apartment with my siblings in two months and I'll have some then, as well as be able to save more money to get my own place again after a year.

Look at it this way:

Online dating, whether you are successful with it or not, will at least operate for you as a platform where you can practice initiating contact without any consequences for either party.

Give it a chance!

You'll no doubt hear most of the negatives about online dating, and I'll be honest it hasn't worked out for me. HOWEVER it has helped me learn to engage and hold conversations better. FWIW that's something that can be taken away from the experience.

As far as the little details go: Don't focus on them too much about yourself. Look at the positives - you're moving into an apartment share, you're open to the idea of being a parent, you get on well with family and have some contacts. Do remember to pay attention to detail, though, on the profiles you like. Those details are what get conversations started (or some quirky jokes works, too).