Hi All,
I met a lovely lady online and it was instant attraction for both of us. What have been dealbreakers for her in the past I don't care about, like she lives 2 hours away in the country and she has a daughter with multiple physical & intellectual disabilities. We share lots of interests and we really enjoy each other's company. She's also not mad keen on sex or socialising just like me, but likes cuddling & affection.
All this is good. But getting to know her she shows signs of being well on the spectrum, like very poor judgement in previous partners (they all took advantage of her), being extremely open about her past, even when I barely knew her, her family use her terribly, amazing organisation skills (we fixed a tent and she was coming up with spare bits and fabric from labelled boxes), stresses out about what could happen in the future, mad about cryptic crosswords & puzzles, doesn't wear makeup, wears clothes till they fall apart, then fixes them, I could go on, but I'm convinced she's well on the spectrum.
My question is, what should I look out for in the future? I've had lots of promising romantic relationships fall apart as I'm high functioning, so I can appear NT for a first date, just later as they find out that I'm not very social, don't have many friends, don't go out much, dislike parties, etc. There doesn't seem much written about AS-AS relationships. I'd appreciate a few pointers so I don't stuff up because I really like her. We're both mid 50's.
Thanks
04 Sep 2017, 8:04 pm
