Being Single Is 'Not a Crisis'

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http://shine.yahoo.com/dailyshot/being- ... .html?vp=1 - Suddenly, even though I am 26 and was in a relationship for a week, I feel a little better about myself.....

Yay! Similar situation here...and I don't plan on changing it any time soon. It's a different life that I lead, but it's not an inferior one. Not in the least.

I'm 40, male, and never had a girlfriend. I actually like being single. It's not a ****** crisis. It can be heaven!

Tons of friends, a graduate degree, and a published author.

Stopped watching there.

I'd give any chance of a "relationship" away in favour of tons of NORMAL friends, personally.

I do consider it a crisis. Maybe I see things different than Hale since I care less about having 'friends' and see being single as critically bad.

Being temporarily single is not a crisis. Being a FOREVER single is.

This woman's Lighthouse metaphor doesn't work. Sailors avoid lighthouses. They are a warning to sailors of rocks that will tear their hull apart if they don't avoid the lighthouse.
Huff Post - I've been single for my entire life

But I agree. People shouldn't feel pressurd to date because everyone else is doing it.

It is a crisis because having relationship&sex is a basic human need.

I disagree. A need is something you will die with out i.e. food, water, air, shelter from extreme heat or extreme cold.

People can live perfectly happy and fulfilling lives without sex or romantic love. It is ahering to the lie that sex and romantic love are needs is what makes people without them feel stressed and unhappy. It is also buying into that lie which makes people desperately marry the first person who asks them and they end up in an unhappy marriage at 25.

You people needed an internet article to tell you that being single is not a crisis?

I have literally never been happier than when not in a close intimate relationship - i.e. single and without in your face friends that you confide everything in and that feel like a relationship anyway.

People just give me grief. Even when the interaction is fun, the resultant necessary processing is painful and uncomfortable. Of course, there is always that pipe dream that one day I will meet *the right one* and it will be easy and painless and beautiful but I am not holding my breath. Being one with the Universe is a wonderful experience, being bogged down by other people's drama, expectations, neurosis and issues totally outweighs any pleasure they may be able to provide.

Being single rocks!

a crisis is whatever one construes as a crisis.

Yep pretty much what i'm stuck with.




some people will and do die without it, its called suicide, though i think it can lead to a lower immune system or less moral to fight off illness,

I'm happy for those who can live life alone, i though am not one of them. all the hobbies and money in the world will never fulfill my life

so why having a person isn't the sole thing they'll make me happy neither is hobbies, i need both i presume without it in 40 years i'll likely die one way or another presuming i don't already have a disorder that's killing me already

Depression causes suicide. Being told repeatedly by society that you need to be in a romantic relationship to be valued causes depression. Value yourself. You do not need the validation of another human being to be real and happy.

Some of us will never find a partner. I'm not being mean, it's just a fact. I am one of those people. We shouldn't get depressed and woe is me about it. We can't pin all of our dreams of happiness on the unrealistic notion that romance will come our way and everything will be peachy. We have to find positive fulfilling ways of living our lives. We are not worthless because we do not partake in romantic relationships. We have value and we need to believe in ourselves.

Easier said than done I know.

If you can't have sex, exercise. It's good for your immune system. Get the heart pumping in other ways.

Erm...not being in a relationship isn't a crisis, guys, even if it's your whole life. I like the way someone else put it - it's only a crisis if you feel it's a crisis.

For me, whenever I take steps towards being in a relationship, it's never from personal desire. It's always because of the societal message that you're 'weird' if you aren't in a relationship and/or all these implications that you really haven't lived if you're not in a relationship, love in a relationship is the best thing in the world, etc. As someone who hasn't been in a relationship, I can tell you that...okay, I'm weird (who here isn't?) but so what! And I am definitely living - I love myself and I love my life. Not many people can claim that.

For me it's not a crisis, and you can't make the blanket statement that it is. Everyone's different. I won't devalue other people's feelings about their own situations - for some people, not being in a relationship feels terrible - but I don't want my own devalued either.