Teach me some basic body language

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Hey, I'm a highly-functional Aspie, and I have learned to keep most of my quirks quite invisible to the public,
however, a lack of body language, and understanding of it, might keep me from getting in a successful relationship.
I might mention, I am only 15, so I don't have a lot of experience, so come at me from a basic level.

It is difficult to explain, but what signs can I look for if the other person (read: love interest) is bored, playful, reluctant etc.
And what can I do with my body to communicate nonverbally?
Tips are greatly appreciated, I'm mostly asking NTs here, but answers from experienced aspies are also welcome.

The only tip I have for you is that smiles can mean anything so don't go off of that.

You might want to goggle info about this,there is lots out there.I have read that up to 80% of human communication is non-verbal....so I seem to be missing a lot of it.One of the tricky aspects is that someone can give off what could be considered a "message"....like staring(because you are cute or weird?...hard to tell),a smile,touch your arm when talking to you,mimicing your actions,turning there body to face you while talking,giving compliments.....all can be signs of attraction,but.......

Some females just give these signals to GET attention,ie,they flirt to feed their own egos but have no actual interest in you or of having a relationship.I have seen this many times.I would imagine males also do this?Point being,even NV language can be misleading.Half the time females engage in this behavior they are more interested in completing with other females(like girls who only go after guys who already have a girlfriend or are with any other female).

So,you should take any advice that people give you with this for warning.Some people can be very deceptive to feed their own egos.

I have read about this on websites. Apparently if you're sat with a group of people, your legs point towards the person you want to have sex with.

lol, possibly, but i think its more an interest in the person rather than that. its safe to not worry where your legs are pointing in a social gathering

A person's feet, legs or torso usually point in the direction they'd rather go or they'd rather be facing. So if someone to your right is talking your ear off and you'd rather be talking to the person to your left, it's likely that you'll point your feet, legs and/or torso toward your left, but you'll have your face pointed toward your right because you're listening to the chatterbox.

People with big egos or who feel more powerful than you or want to appear powerful to you are likely to take up a lot of space and expose vulnerable regions of their bodies. For example a man might sit across from you and put his hands joined behind his head so his elbows stick way out above his shoulders, and recline a little bit so his torso and/or neck is exposed and with one ankle up on top of his other knee so his genital area is exposed (not literally of course; he's still wearing clothes). Then he'll tilt his head back a little bit and look "down" at you. That's an extreme example but people take positions like that all the time. It's a power thing.

When I was 16 and 17 I read a couple of books about body language. I highly recommend it. Interesting stuff.

When you talk to her stand in front of her facing her, not side by side or anything. Girls much prefer this so they can see you right in front. Later if you are more friendly you can stand more shoulder to shoulder.

Look her right in the eyes (about 75% of time) and smile, and listen closely to what she says. When she talks maybe she will accentuate one word or thing in a sentence - something she is interested in. Well ask her questions about that thing.

What I am saying is when you are having a conversation adopt this body language and it will work better.

Smiling <> grinning like a lunatic.