Why do NTs date Aspies?

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I just don't understand.

Because we are people?

It's not like we kill people or anything.

my NT husband married aspie me because I'm intelligent and have a big heart, according to him. we also have similar interests.

At a guess they have things in common and get along well. Thing is even though we are aspie doesn't mean we have nothing to offer people.

Because they like them and find them attractive?

What's wrong with that? Do you think NTs shouldn't date aspies?

I never said that they shouldn't. I just don't understand what they find attractive about Aspies. I think NTs are way more attractive than Aspies when in comes to personality. I don't understand why they would put up with Aspies.

Because no other NTs would date them.

Okay, well NTs have liked that I'm honest, unpretentious, rational, and that I know myself really well. There's a few reasons to start you off. I think a lot of aspies would share those traits.

The stereotype society has of us in the spectrum is
romantically speaking very unappealing. However, I question
the very narrow definition we have of autism. I know many
people in the spectrum who are artistic, highly refined
beautifully eccentric, deep, passionate, eloquent.........
I could go on and on.


Perhaps when Hollywood starts portraying characters in
the spectrum which truly represent the diversity of most
of us, maybe that might play a part in enlightening society
that although we might be socially challenged, we can
dance beautifully through this life.

Many of my NT friends would die for a date with Daryl Hannah.

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Because a number of people on the spectrum aren't bad enough off that you can tell they're on the spectrum.

Personality... I instantly liked the honesty, his approach, the outlook on life, his moral code, his brain, the drive to succeed in life, sense of humor, the big heart. I can go on....
We share a lot of common values and are both open minded, It's not so much about putting up with one another; he is who he is, and I am who I am.

My husband and I share many of the same interests. We have a similar sense of humor. We enjoy each other's company. He thinks some of my quirks are cute.

I dunno, why do NTs date each other?

Because they love them.

Self-hating much?

It seems to really depend. When I was in my teens and early twenties, the NTs I dated tended to do one of several things: value my openness, analytic capabilities, nerdiness and willingness to hang out or they viewed me as an improvement project (they would try to 'teach' me to be more stylish and/or normal over the course of the relationship.)

I can't help but wonder if it's a little of both.